My story

[TheUpsideDown]

My boyfriend suffers from depression and anxiety. Some days are worse than others. I don't know how to help him or make it better. I try to be there for him and be a positive influence in his life. But there are some days where I'm struggling myself to not be depressed. I managed mine with running and being around my family and my pets and staying busy. But sometimes being around him just makes me sad. And I know it's not his fault. He struggles to get out of bed most days and on a bad day he just doesn't. He'll sleep for days. This last week he missed a whole day of work and most other days he goes in late. I'm afraid he's going to eventually lose his job and won't be able to take care of himself. He takes medication for his depression but it doesn't help at all. He fell behind on his payments so they won't schedule him another appointment until his payments go through. I offered to call and try to talk with them about it but he said that he'll take care of it. But I'm not convinced that he will. He's been sleeping for the last two days. He woke up for a little bit this afternoon and ate but then just went back to sleep. We've been struggling with our relationship for awhile now. We've almost broken up many times. Largely due to depression. Sometimes I don't want to be around it anymore but I know that he doesn't ever choose to be depressed. It's just the way it is. But I'm not ok with it. I want him to feel better. I want to not feel alone anymore.

[caroash]

Hi this must be very difficult for you to see him suffering so much,I think it's very difficult to be in a relationship with someone who is depressed as it will inevitably affect you too, especially when you are prone to it yourself. Ultimately people have to help themselves through the right support,,he may need to go back to his GP to change his meds if they're not working and maybe get help with talking therapies. Although you can be there for him you can't be his therapist and I'm sure he wouldn't want that either. It sounds like he's not looking after himself sleeping too much won't help his mood, particularly as for good seratonin you need a good amount of daylight. Does he have a friend who he listens bro who can reach out to him.I certainly think he needs to be honest with the GP to start with

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I don't think no one chooses to be depressed. I guess at least with you having depression yourself you understand. You must talk to him. Communication is so important in a relationship and I've realised that a lot as I've got older. Breaking up isn't any good as it makes you both insecure. Try talking to him. He may try online counselling. I need this too, has anyone got one to recommend?