I’d like to add a possible TRIGGER WARNING just in case someone is likely to be triggered upon hearing of sexual assault as a child. Not planning on going into detail but just to be safe!
I wanted to discuss this with someone but it’s too much info for loved ones in some aspects.
I’ve had a lot of bad run ins with men; my earliest experience being when I was 8 years old and a 5th grader at my babysitters threatened my disabled brothers life unless I did what he asked. I will say now that there was NOT any intercourse but granted; I think I’ve blacked most of it out by now.
After that, it was pretty much the same with some short lasting relationships with boyfriends and of course; the abusive narcissistic ex I dumped almost 3 years ago now.
I want to be a writer, and in practicing my written skills, I write I guess what they call “Erotic” stories, but only because that was one area I did struggle with writing with.
I tend to write the same ideas over and over, the things I find scary, ideas, etc.
Same applies to my practice writing.
In these practice (erotic) stories {which I swear are hardly containing smut as I get embarrassed going into detail with anything sexual} I find that the main character (always female) is always being saved from something, always described as “intriguing” and somehow changes the significant others perspective or way of life.
After writing, I always find myself wanting to be in some of these fictitious persons shoes. I know it’s all just something that’s not real and so on but with some of the things I’ve written about and considering my “history”, does this make me insane?
Does this mean that I’m more screwed up than I thought? I don’t write about childhood trauma but I struggle with thinking about conflict so it often contains kidnapping, abusive/neglectful exes, ex cons, and so on.
I don’t understand why part of me would want or desire that after everything I’ve experienced. It honestly concerns me sometimes...