When you post, what are you wanting, advice or someone to listen?

[Blackdog1]

How do you see this site- as a place for advice or a place to vent?

[MamaTried]

Mostly for me, talking about it or actually putting it into written word is what helps me. Some times you don’t see things as they truly are until you are explaining it to someone (ie: a toxic relationship). At least that’s how it is for me most of the time.

[Blackdog1 in reply to MamaTried]

Same here.

[LilyAnnepuppy]

I don’t post much but when I do I’m looking for other’s experience with whatever I’m going through.

But no matter which option people are looking for, once you post something it’s going to be open for whatever feedback the group wants to give. I’ve seen people get upset because all they wanted to do was vent and they received advice. Well that’s part of the price of using this (or any other) site. It comes with the territory.

[Blackdog1 in reply to LilyAnnepuppy]

I guess someone could always write... I'm just venting, etc.

Thank you for the input.

[fauxartist]

I guess if you want advice you have to ask for it, and if you don't want advice and are just venting you also have to state that. When people post, frankly I don't know what they want. Most people don't respond if you comment, and very few comment compared to the number of members here.. only a few comment probably because they are into their own problems and not interested in reaching out to help others. This used to be a very different place a couple of years ago, people seemed to bond more...but not so much now, probably because of the explosion in membership.

[Blackdog1 in reply to fauxartist]

I was just thinking along the same lines. Its revealed a shortcoming of mine: to not be clearer about what I want or need. (Of course, sometimes I'm in the dark about that myself. I may post something and afterwards realize I wanted a certain thing. Of course, I don't expect strangers to act like friends-- but I think I could speak up more. This is just my issue and something I need to practice more in life, in general.

[saracar]

It’s good though for people who don’t have anywhere in these times to have somewhere to go. I agree. Feedback is touchy. But also good practice for me in learning how to say nicer things when something triggers me. I especially love the people who come on every day or so and post encouraging thoughts.

[Blackdog1 in reply to saracar]

Yes it is an outlet at least and that's no small thing!

[Blackdog1]

Thank you all for commenting. This post has made me realize that there is an overwhelming (at least to me) amount of treatment options for depression. It's endless. I feel like at the end of the day, I can only say: I find that "this" works for me. Thank you very much for your advice. I wish the best for us all.

[Hidden]

When I post I always welcome advice and certainly want someone to listen. Depression and Anxiety are pretty lonely & isolating and we often need to know that we are not alone.

Excellent question by the way! 👌

This is an amazing place to be for support. ⚓🌻🤗♥️🙏

[Blackdog1 in reply to Hidden]

Yes, I agree it really can be isolating.

I am trying to fight a strong urge to isolate right now. It's probably like any "self-medicating" choice(drinking,overeating,drugs, etc.etc.) it feels good initally but you don't get rid of the problem only dig yourself deeper !

So I tell myself: don't isolate but ...people aren't crazy about spending time with a depressed person.

I am going to my closest friend right now and will talk to her about this- best I can.

Thank you for reading!

[Blackdog1 in reply to Blackdog1]

I should change that - Im not trying to fight the urge to isolate.

I am fighting

The fight is on.

[Hidden]

I understand