When to listen to others? When to listen to yourself?

I am finding it difficult to make a decision on my own because my friends and family are urging me to make a different decision when do I know when to trust them and when to trust myself

[Agora1]

Hi Mabel-2022 I feel we need to learn to trust ourselves. In making mistakes, it

becomes a learning experience that makes us stronger and helps us grow as an

individual. It's okay to take in the advice of family and friends but in the end it's

all about choices...Your choice xx

[Hidden in reply to Agora1]

thank you

I’m struggling with a tough decision at the moment. I’ve recently gone against the advice of family and made a huge mistake. Now I’d like to rectify that mistake but that will be going against them again 🤦🏻‍♂️

[Agora1 in reply to Hidden]

A medical advice needs a doctor, a legal advice needs an attorney,

life advice must come from within in order to learn. You have a choice

right now in taking the direction or your parents or believing in yourself.

Wishing you the best in whatever you choose with no regrets xx

[Hidden in reply to Agora1]

thank you

It’s my wife and children, brothers and sisters. I’ve got a lot of support

[Lve2dance]

It depends on the decision 😊. It's hard to give suggestions otherwise

[Hidden]

being in a crisis situation at the moment this is even harder. Everything in me says to do A but my family says B because they see what I can’t.

[bowJim in reply to Hidden]

Hi mabel, 'crisis' these times are tough, I understand. I think you are right, when you say 'they can see things that I can't, I have experienced this, for me maybe write some things down, It may not make a lot of sense just now but may help for the future to reflect on when your mind becomes a bit clearer, Trust yourself to accept some support just now, I am sure you will get through this, one step at a time and will gain some tools to face these difficulties in the future, for me it has been a continuous learning experience trying to understand my mind, it took me time, it was and still have some difficulties but things have become clearer with time. best wishes.

[bowJim]

Trust your heart, some times I think I know what I want to do, yet swimming against the tide, like going against others make me feel I am not listening to them and we all need others for support.

I also find I can be indecisive, more unsure I am doing the right thing, truama and mental health can make us vulnerable it is normal for us, self esteem and confidence can be difficult to manage.

For me having played the mind game of "am I upsetting or offending others by making my own decisions has passed, I would say if you feel you want to do something talk it through with others, break it down, like why you wish to do it, talking things over in the long run is a good course of action, try not to let the situation get the better of you, feeling pressured is not a good feeling, take your time. best wishes.

[Hidden]

thank you

[redrabbitniner]

I am indecisive as well. For me it relates to prior trauma and striving too hard for perfection and worrying too much about others and their feelings, which can then lead to resentment. You could try on each choice fully, sleep on it and then try the other? Just a thought.

[Hidden]

I’m putting pressure on myself to make a decision soon.

[moxoni237]

Hi Mabel building relations and strong connection with being assertive with approach that makes sense with self being wellbeing and mindfulness what aligns with the positive not negative emotion is key to aligning you're feelings true self not wasting energy with what is productive to mind and body spirituality being in touch may help remove any Barriers of less concerns or Demands on awareness hope you find peace👐🌈😃😃

[Midnight-Blue]

I really, really, REALLY hate making decisions! I tend to second guess myself . The more difficult the scenario the more anxious & fearful I get. However just KNOWing that I, ME, have to do it - well those “little” butterflies (that everyone talks about) in my stomach are now causing me major problems and procrastinating long enough - I just make up my mind & share how I feel & what should be done. (My decission) And, I stand by my decission, no matter what others my think & feel about it.

And, at the end of the day, I feel pretty good. I accomplished something that I didn’t want to ever do - make a decission! And, I felt good about it.

I hope this helps you. Use yours”gut feeling” ., do some research , and with all the information you have and with confidence , make your decission & hood luck.

[Hidden]

Thank You

[Lve2dance]

😊

[Lve2dance]

exactly.. They mean well.. I listen to what people say, process it and see if I can use some of it or just listen and use best judgment.

[Hidden]

I just think in the end you have to do what you think is right for you. We can’t always be worried about pleasing our family.

[Mrspjsmom]

I have always told my children to trust their instincts. I do the same. It's impossible to listen to everyone and keep them happy so trust yourself with no apologies. We are stronger and wiser than we realize.

[Hidden]

when it’s your significant other and children it’s hard to go against them

[Mrspjsmom in reply to Hidden]

Very true. I have been facing that myself more often than not lately. But I hold on to the hope that things will get better. Take care of yourself when you need to.

[Lve2dance]

thanks 😀

[Dolphin14]

I guess it all depends on what decisions you are talking about and who they impact.

I never had a family that had my best interest in mind so I would never go that route ... taking their advice.

My motto is follow my heart. I finally know what I need.

Best of luck with your decision making

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