Extreme emotions for basic life events

[alih95]

Hi everyone! I am new to this community. Does anyone else experience extreme emotions when a breakup happens or something goes wrong at work? I struggle with being able to handle basic life event and not becoming completely negative about myself. Would love to hear any coping techniques!

[EHR02]

I have experianced this as well. Everyone believes me to be dramatic and that hurts a lot because I cant control it. I feel like there are some things that I just cant "get over" and I struggle with that because I wonder if I'll ever get over them. I truly don't think I will and Im afraid I'll be lonely and unhappy the rest of my life.

[alih95 in reply to EHR02]

I feel the exact same way and I don’t know if it’s worth it. Life is meant to be shared and I just want a partner who supports and can be there for me

[Courtm4511]

Yes! I’m really dependent on what my coworkers and people close to me feel about me. So if I feel like I screwed up in anyway I really take it hard. My boyfriend and I have had many talks about this. Any time he’s upset with me I just shut down assuming he’ll leave me. I’ll come home and just cry and isolate myself if I did something wrong at work and struggle to get up to go back in the next day. It’s something I’m working on with my therapist. It all comes down to having self-esteem and not putting your self worth in other people’s hands. We’ve been doing a work book called “the self-esteem workbook” by Glenn r. Schiraldi. It’s on amazon and definitely something you can do on your own. I hope this helps!

[Hidden in reply to Courtm4511]

Wow I am the exact same way with my boyfriend! Always scared he will leave me when something goes wrong.

[Poodie]

Hi alih.

Welcome to the community. It is nice to have you here.

I know I have over reacted to the loss of a relationship in the past. I was fooled and deceived and did not love myself enough. Actually I learned to put myself first during the rupture of this relationship. For me, my inability to cope better stemmed from experiences early in my life.

So yes I sucked at handling all sorts of life events. My self esteem was low partially because I was abused. It took a toll on me. I never gave myself enough credit.

I hope you can find help soon, so you can go on to have a better and easier life. Therapy can do wonders. Then having your own back is essential.

Best wishes.

[Hidden]

All the time! I remember when I started a new job in retail and something went wrong and I wasn’t doing a good job my eyes started to water and I was tearing myself apart and being way too hard on myself. I felt like everyone was looking at me and judging me. I know it may sound silly but yeah, I won’t go into detail about it since it’s a long story lol. I’m a very sensitive person and when things don’t go the way I want them to I get upset. I know i’m not the only one who’s like that! It’s so hard thinking about the good things when you’re in such a negative place. Just do your best to take deep breaths, that’s what I try to do and it helps sometimes.

[NadiaB]

Same here. I feel things deeply. Sometimes I wonder if it's normal.