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Tired of not changing

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Sometimes it becomes daunting to correct problems or "work on myself" because I can't see the problems that I have. I have been working on myself for awhile, but as far as i can tell I havent made much of a dent. I am lonely most days with no one to talk to and now i couldn't go anywhere if i wanted to.

I wish sometimes people that i know would just tell me flat out instead of trying to save my feelings because this way i can fix my attitudes etc.

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It is hard I know... have you tried CBT? This does help with attitude or reactions to things...it’s hard bcuz it does require you to tear yourself down to build yourself back up. You have to look at how you react but it does teach u reasons why and how to counter act against it...

These changes as much as I would personally like them to magically be better or back to how they were prior take time... I’m not even consistent day to day... how can I expect others to think I’m back to old me if I can’t control my crap at times... or how I react not do rationally at times... I do know that the more I work on my self worth/esteem by accomplishing little things I feel better able to manage crap coming at me. The less I feel overwhelmed with little stuff the more in control I feel so it’s like building a house... foundation sturdy so building won’t fall down. I am trying to give people benefit of doubt so maybe they will give me same in return. Try looking outside yourself more as it does help u see yourself clearly... kind of like watching how u react to stuff from another’s shoes...

Hope this helps...

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terriltwin2

Achieving starts with believing. Believe in yourself. You are worthy and have the ability to do anything your minds is set to do. I have always been told that my attitude is my choice. I had a bad attitude and I wanted to change it so bad, it started with me Keeping a journal and writing down all my negative thoughts or words that came into my head, then, I started one day writing down the opposite of all the negatives. Opposite of stupid-----smart. Opposite of worthless-----valuable, precious, useful. I had a dictionary out some of the time. I realized that it was training my thoughts to think in a more positive manner. Yes it takes work, but little steps like these are monumental in allowing us to believe in ourselves. we all are worthy of this and we are all in different circumstances and situations in our lives. But, my favorite thing is knowing that this season won't last very long. Winter is dark, long and lonely, then spring comes and lighter and longer days come. Seasons don't last very long. Just remembering things such as these helps get me through.

" Attitude is like a flat tire, if you don't change it , you are not going anywhere."--Joyce Meyer

I loved this, it hit home with me . It's up to us to change our direction, but with help from friends and this community, I am on the rise and so will you be.

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