Recurring dreams

[HarshithaSanikommu]

I was in a relationship with a guy for 8 years. It's been 7 months since I came to know that my boyfriend was cheating on me. I gave hima second chance as I loved him so much and I didn't wanna loose him. But later I was diagnosed with high depression and anxiety and realised that I wasn't happy so I broke up with him. From then I keep getting this same dream where he keeps cheating on me again and again with multiple girls and I keep waiting for him to choose me over other girls. It hurts and I don't understand why I keep taking shit from this guy again and again without hitting the shit out of his face. I dont wanna think about him or see him in my dreams again. Or atleast I wanna hit him so hard and teach him a lesson in my dream. How can I change my dreams?

[Amlughelke]

Unfortunately, from my experience you can’t control your dreams. I’ve had recurring dreams about being sexually abused for 12 years that have never gone away. However, I don’t want to sound all doom and gloom. The dreams do go away in some people, but even if they don’t, I think the best thing to do is remember that the dreams aren’t reality. They aren’t a prophesy. If you can do counseling that might help. My heart goes out to you

[HarshithaSanikommu in reply to Amlughelke]

Thanks

[Hidden]

I think you need to deal with yourself rather than with him. By that I mean you seem to feel very vulnerable to being cheated on; it is something you think was your fault which it probably wasn't. His cheating was his issue. You need to know that you are worthy of a man being faithful to you. Maybe you can plan a different dream before going to sleep. I'm learning you can tell your mind that you are in control not it. Tell it you are the boss, that you don't want this dream but one which makes you happy. Try for a few days and see what happens!

[CanuckAnon in reply to Hidden]

Try meditating or doing something that comforts you or makes you feel better about yourself.... self care b4 bed so you are happy, feeling good about yourself and relaxed...

[HarshithaSanikommu in reply to CanuckAnon]

I am listening to sleep subliminals every night. But nothing seems like working

[CanuckAnon in reply to HarshithaSanikommu]

Try meditative white noise to sleep... no words to keep your brain active...

[HarshithaSanikommu in reply to Hidden]

Thanks. Will try this