Im in a polygamous relationship and he lied to my face.

[Inabox]

I have been in a suicidal/depressive state since the incident. I have no idea how to deal with this lying. He has been lying to me for 3 years. I literally am crushed. It makes me want to either swallow a bunch of pills or cut. I feel as nothing will fix it. I have talked to him several times about how i feel but nothing results from it. I cannot take this pain much longer. Im writing this in hopes someone can give me advice on how to deal with this giving the fact i have bipolar and mdd.

[hopeforjoy]

Please, please do no harm to yourself! You matter more to this universe than you dare even dream. Others, such as myself, have walked in very similar shoes as you are walking in right now -- and yes, some of us even felt suicidal at certain moments, but the most important thing is is that we are still here.

We are alive, we are the survivors, we are the overcomers.

And given enough time, given enough self-repair, but most importantly given enough self-kindness, then rest assured that you too will be an overcomer as well.

[BetaTogetha]

I am sorry you are experiencing a very painful time with your partner. Your best advice, is to finding some relief by prioritizing your health and wellbeing. First of all anything your partner says will not fix your feelings. There isn’t an instant fix. Right now you are allowed to feel very hurt/upset/sad. So just give yourself some time to grieve. You don’t have to make any huge decisions about what to do right this minute, so just take a few days to acknowledge your feelings and accept them, they are natural for stressful situations. Emotions can pull your thoughts all over the board, just listen to yourself and breath through them, and release them.

When you have done that, then you can start heal. Put yourself first, look for what makes you happy. Look for ways to grow through from this situation, there are many relationship books and online blogs that you can explore to find some more specific guidance and help give you tools for the future.

You are intelligent and resourceful and I’m sure you have a big heart. Give yourself love and time to heal.

You will get through this! Right now it is hard but you will grow and bloom into an even stronger version of yourself.

If you find yourself feeling extremely overwhelmed with hurtful thoughts,

Take a slow deep breath and remember you will make it through this.

Call a friend/family and talk with them.

And reach out on here, we are all here for you.

[pasl]

Please don’t harm yourself. You have so much value and so much worth. These two lovely people above me did an amazing job in giving advice and I agree with them 100%

I have also been at a point in my life where I felt betrayed by a partner and it felt like the end of everything I knew but I promise you it will get better ❤️

[Mary-intussuception]

Your are Precious and Beautiful.

You deserve better than this.

Please give yourself time.

You can move forward ftom this.

You've had a deep, deep, shock discovering that you have been betrayed by someone you thought you could trust.

Hoping you can rest a while, then find the right way forward for you - in time.

God Bless xx

[Hidden]

I also agree with everything that's already been said, and I also believe that maybe talking with your partner has not been successful due to possible miscommunications or misunderstandings? If you know this is not true, and talking to them about it isn't helping, then maybe you should try couple's therapy if you have the money. However if nothing's working and you think he's doing you more harm than good, it might be a bad idea to stick around. It usually takes something big to make people change and he doesn't sound like he wants to when you need him to from what I've read.

And please always remember that you deserve love, you are always cared about at least by the people on this site and we are glad you're with us. I really hope that life gets better for you and that you receive a warm, comforting hug. 😊