Ms Darling from the U.K. said we talk about the people we used to be like we have died already, like we are ghost now grieving the life we had before this. Haunting each other with memories of how it used to be.
Truth is we're not who we use to be, yes we're still here... Just not the same.
Some days I don't even remember what the old Dani was like, when I look at old photos and videos I don't even recognize that person. One day I'll stop going back to the past. Yes im still here, Yes I have bad days but also good ones like today where I laugh cause the comments are funny, and later I will bake a chocolate cake cause WHY NOT. It's chocolate cake and for the first time in days I'm not sad
Beautiful. We are all of who we ever were and ever will be but in the now let’s just hug ourselves. Enjoy your cake... now you’ve put in my mind that I will do something that I enjoy too hmmmmm oysters are so good.
I was always confused when I had counselling coz they would say one day I would return to the person I once was. None of the counsellors seemed to consider or be willing to understand that since my depression started around the age of 7 I have no memories of being any different. Indeed I have never known how much of my personality is determined by this and how I would be without it. For me this always somewhat invalidated any help.
I have never been understood by anyone as the assumption is always that depression is a relatively short term affair and that treatment will help you out of it. I have done virtually all the work on myself on my own.
Some therapist don't take time to understand or even ask the right questions, I don't think any kind of treatment or therapy can help anyone out of depression, it just gets bearable, we learn to manage and try to make it through each day but it stays with us. Suffering at 7 years old when your life have barely started is heartbreaking, I'm sorry they never took the time to start from the beginning
I think we change a little or sometimes a lot everyday. Our core person is inside us, it awaken as we go along. I do not live in the past. That is why we call it past, it is done and gone. I only bring happy things into the present, I forgave those who hurt me, not for their sake but mine. Yes depression has a way of squashing us, but once we get to the light at the end of the tunnel, it is play time!!! Been down that tunnel a lot of times, just came out of a 3 year trip, it was awful, I feel changed, but I am also happy. So yes lets make cake, eat oysters or anything that you love, and enjoy every moment of the adventure. Hypercat54 do not give up, want to read a great book that helped me by Scott Peck MD. "The Road Less Traveled" Amazon has it new/used. It was in the top 10 best sellers for 7 years. Thank You Callmedanielle, loved the photo, yellow is my no.2 favorite color. Hope you are having a wonderful day. Sending Love & Hugs......Sprinkle 1....
I'm still working on the forgiveness part which is extremely hard I don't know how people do it. Yellow is also my #2 royal blue come first. I hope you're having a great week so far hun
I know exactly how you feel. Here’s to more good than bad💛
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Cheers love, may we have more good days than bad ones
I have to say...I wound not want to go back to who I was in the past....before therapy that is. It has taken me decades to finally find the 'me' I want to be....always a work in progress but at least with a bit of life mileage on my treads, I know things are going to be okay and don't sweat the small stuff so much anymore.
We'll always be work in progress and that's okay, I still live both in the past and present especially durring therapy sessions where childhood wounds have to be reopen so they can heal properly this time around. I enjoy the good days as much as I can and keep hoping I have more of them on the way. Hope you're having a great Tuesday Faux 🌻
Your doing the work honey...and that's what it takes....time, healing, and getting up everyday to know we have hope and we are going to life our life with this stuff, not let it dictate how we live our life. Your doing so well....
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