Have you ever reconnected with a love from your past?
I have my first date from my online profile Saturday with a guy I dated briefly 5 years ago. I was in such a dark place when we first met but I know I’m different now. I know I’m managing my depression and anxiety symptoms using the healthier coping I’ve been working on for years. I’m so curious to see how this goes🤞
Any words of wisdom for me?
Yes no offense
Plse
Relax U havd nothing to worry about trust me plus u have a woman’s radar so sit relax chat and ur esp will sort out the rest
U women look at yourself under the electron microscope maybe some guys are like that but most of us. Want compatibility and what’s in the book not just the front cover
We tell that to women all the time they never listen endlessly faulting themselves over some timyndrfect or flaw
Flaw?
Who Tks that way I just want to have a good time buddy pal friend soulmate comrade bfffffffffff
Try telling that to people
They never get it
If he’s not crazy about u he’s either stupid or has cataracts
Good reminder...relax...especially with my anxiety and low self esteem. Relax, keep it simple, I like it 😊
Young car drivers are impressed with the outside or the car Older drivers listen
And carexabout how smooth the ride and how jury she Lott’s and how elm u medh
So many people thk us Gus are just visual
We laugh
Noting that some Tlc and lots of attention and affection can’t turn around us old drivers die laughing g at cosmo and psych people and young drivers
Us old drivers aren’t as stupid as people Tk lol smooooooooth
Like painters know learn when to say just rt cuz just Rt is where it’s learn when to put the paint brush down
Just rt
Less is more 😊
In have nothing. To worry about throw away the mirror Snow White doesn’t need one only the wicked queen
Yes I have ..my high school sweetheart, first real love and we're now going strong, in love..almost 39 years of marriage...
Stay strong and hold your power...you never know what may become of this...
Nothing but positive vibes for you.............
Sparkles & dump trucks nc007!
Thanks PeachyLisa! He always liked me so much but I didn’t like me. So interested to see how he will react when he sees me. I look completely different after losing all that weight. Excited😊
Enjoy yourself, relax and have fun!
Gonna get out of my head. No overthinking. Just fun. Thanks CanuckAnon😊
Exactly no pressure on you! Just enjoy the company for an evening! It could be an interesting conversation and fun to meet up with someone from the past....
Enjoying fun without fear is new. I’m learning 😊
Yes I hear you there. A little fear or anticipation might be good but yes too much fear not good. Learning the happy balance is hard yes!
It was always fear of rejection. Lack of trust in others and myself. Past hurt and insecurities got in the way. Not this time🙅🏻♀️
That’s really awesome to hear!
Thanks Swuare251, I need to positivity 😊
You have a way of posing some interesting questions that get me thinking. I don't remember any loves from my past, but I remember a boy my parents absolutely loved. Thinking back, they were so right about him.
Then there was another guy I knew who told a friend of mine that he wanted to marry a girl like me one day. When I got my divorce, he called me up to get together and sell me something, but he ended up sending me pictures of himself all dressed up and looking good. It was cute, but I wasn't interested and decided not to buy 😆.
Words of wisdom, I say just have fun!
Window shopping is ok. You don’t always have to buy 😜
Im in a similar situation, because im stuck on the past and how it didnt work out. Im also trying to rush to a relationship. Which has turned him off. How do you keep your composure and cool?
Gosh I wish I had insight into keeping composure and cool. I think I’m learning patience. I realize my anxiety was causing me to want to control situations because I was so fearful. That caused me to become clingy and over expressive of feelings too early. Now with my anxiety more in check due to my coping skills, I feel less afraid of the ambiguous which allows me to take more emotional risk and just let go. Cool isn’t possible for me. I am unique and a little weird but I just believe now someone will appreciate that about me. I’m working on it. Does that help?
Omg this is me!!!!! Filled with anxiety!!!
Well somehow after years of being trapped online filled with anxiety on this merry go round of rejection, I feel calm. That’s today. Let’s see how I do on Saturday 🤪
Becalm, be sexy, be cool. Keep us posted!!
I aspire to be all those things but I’ll just be me 🤣
Good for you congratulations.
Stay confident and smile,
If you dated 5 years ago its gonna be your lucky night😅....
No matter what just have fun and treat yourself good on your date.
As for reconnecting with a past love, I'm married now so I dont know how to reconnect, I'm trying but everytime I try to think of it my wife pops up in my head. Shes like this bobble head that keeps shaking her head whenever I think of getting back with my first love or any other woman.
Anyways havent seen my first love since 1st grade so I dont know where she is now 😅.
My second love left me had kids then left their father and now shes single somewhere in california. So I think I'm fine right here
Anyways goodluck on your date I'm 100% it's going to go well and I wish you happiness and love. Dont forget to invite me and dolphin to your wedding 🗽
It’s probably for the better not to revisit if you are married. I want my own bobble head 💛
👍 I honestly do try every single day to stay strong and keep pushing. I have my stories and reasons for speaking the way I do. And I just hope the lord continues to guide me through. Let me know how your date goes I like to know 🗽
I love how you speak QuichIsOnFire! I look forward to your responses every time😁
Just keep those questions coming lol..
You know I will! I love all your answers
I hope your date goes well. Quichisonfire and I would be honored to attend the wedding
Let’s get to a second date and then we can discuss wedding bells 😉
Haha
Trust me, take your time. Lol
No rush here. My anxiety couldn’t take it lol
Second date??..
It only took one date for me and the next thing you know I'm inside the hospital signing a birth certificate 🤣🤣🤣
I reread this when I woke up 😂😂
If you are in a better place now and feel up to the connection, why not? Have fun!
I do feel in a better place. Feeling excited, not nervous for now 😁
Hello nc097.
Yes.
I guess he was the first boy I actually fell for. I think we were 15 or 16. We used to talk about what we wanted to do with our lives. Not together, or at least we never mentioned that, but as in a career or work. I emailed him because I wondered, after over 40 yrs, how his life actually turned out.
There was no intention of even continuing to e mail one another, and I let him know that. We are both happily married to other people. I don’t think that ever works. But it was nice to know what kind of life he had, something about his career, and his family, kids, and where he settled down, and I shared that kind of info with him too. It was fun.
I also got to know he remembered me. He mentioned some of the things we did together which I actually had forgotten. We were just kids and did not date that long , but we did like one another a lot. I remember
realizing/ intuiting back then that his mom thought we were too young to be so serious.
It had been a very long time, so I took a chance and am glad I did.
It was so nice to hear back from him. I suppose you always remember your first love.
But that’s it, and probably not the answer you are looking for.
Now my advice to you is —— Enjoy yourself ! Have fun !!!❤️ Good luck.
I love that response. I think it would be so cool to find out how life turned out for some of the people I dated. You’re brave. I just got off the phone with the guy and for a brief second I started to doubt myself and go back to who I was when he dated me 5 years ago but then I reminded myself I’m not in that place anymore. Not going to go in serious. Just gonna act like we are 2 friends catching up and having fun. Then we can see what happens
that ‘s a good idea. ! I look forward to hearing about it.
24 hours later. 
A Depressed Future Therapist
Difficult day
illness making my anxiety worse 
Still feel “doomed” and unemployable
