Just don't understand

[GBfan]

I should be so happy and excited right now. My daughter is flying down to spend a week with us. BUT, I woke up numerous times in panic mode. I was thinking of everything that could go wrong.. I tried to concentrate on the good but the worries kept creeping in. Tried to talk to my husband and he just doesn't understand what I am feeling. I am a logical person and when this happens I believe that trait makes it even worse. Any one have some good coping skills that work best for them?

[Hidden]

Do your best to focus only on the positives...the negatives do us no good... I wish you nothing but the best...Hold onto your power..it will take you to great places...

Sparkles & dump trucks of groovy love, peace, light, joy & hugus GBfan!

[Hidden]

I dont have a daughter and our adult sons live locally. But years back, my parents would come visit for 3-4 weeks at a time, once a year. I was young and not assertive so didnt have the wisdom to tell them their visits would b best if they were a week or less. My husband never understood my anxiety about overnight guests. I would go crazy cleaning, stressing over meals, the “ what ifs”... I look back and think what a waste of energy I caused myself. Im not sure even what my anxiety was about. Even today at age 66, Im not Mrs Hospitality. Im not Suzie Homemaker, I cook but it isnt my fav thing to do, Im not a great housekeeper so maybe deep down Im ashamed of what Im not? I hope you can find a way to chill, enjoy your daughters company and make the most of your time together. We dont know how much time we have here, so dont let anxiety steal your joy, especially with your child💜. Let us know how the visit goes.

[Hidden]

Anything bad that you are thinking about have any merit? Meaning anything you are thinking ever happened before?

I use cut off words... saying something like STOP (meaning that thought Is not allowed), INTRUDING (your invading my thoughts). Any word, just something to stop it in it’s tracks.

I bought an old rusted sign not too long from an antique shop, Ive wondered the history behind this sign ever since I bought and hung it on my wall. 😊

..... but it says DEAR BRAIN, PLEASE SHUT UP. 🤫

Visual aids can help too. 🌺

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

I love your post! I am going to copy “ Dear Brain, please shut up”... perfect💜

[GBfan in reply to Hidden]

I definitely need that sign lol

[Hidden in reply to GBfan]

let me see if I can put an image of it up for you guys to see it.

[LadyZen]

I usually try to narrow down my worries and just focus on one thing and that one thing only. If I can't do it mentally, I'll create a list somewhere, prioritize it by importance, in an excel file on my phone or in a notebook. I look at the very top thing on my list and just focus on that and that alone and how to resolve that. Then I close the app or shut the notebook and tell myself, the rest will have to wait. Nothing on that list will cause the world to crumble. Once I've tackled the first item or worry, I'll check it off and look at the next item.