Feel like never marrying again.

[NightOwl2020]

This is depressing me. I grew up in the middle of a nasty divorce with my parents, I told myself I'd never have a divorce. Fast forward to now and I am getting a divorce with a man I was with for 3 years. It was partly my fault and partly his, but I feel like it was unnecessary pain. I don't trust anyone enough to marry them now. I haven't given up on love, but every relationship seems to turn into a nightmare in the end, and adding a legal contract to it makes it even harder. The idea of relationships and marriage makes my anxiety go through the roof. On top of that I am bisexual and even though it was not a problem in my marriage and did not contribute to the breakup at all it leaves me feeling like I should have partners of both sexes but never marry. I understand if you do not agree but please respect my view. I just don't want to ever marry again. I would like to raise a child independently and have partners but I don't trust anyone enough to marry them. I just have a hardened heart and want to be independent. I feel like the only way to survive in this world is to trust yourself and not leave yourself vulnerable. I see myself turning more jaded and guarded by the day. It's kind of scaring me and I feel like I'm choosing the wrong path. I just can't shake myself out of it.

[LadyZen]

I came out of a toxic 17 year marriage. I question my sexuality too, not just because of my marriage but my rape at 17 kind of changed me from who I thought I was going to be. I kind of wonder if I'm just asexual at times, neither this or that. It's difficult because I consider myself a devout Catholic too. But my parents have been married now for 54 years, so I have seen the beauty that comes out from a long lasting marriage. Having said that, I think we each have a valuable place in this world with or without marriage.

[Hidden]

Marriage is a very big thing alot of people may not understand. And when I say marriage I mean married in church not the civil marriage not that there is a huge difference but if you ever got married in church, remember who you both are committing your promise to. Not to eachother but you stand in front of god and you promised to him to death do us part and all the other readings. You see I got married both civil and in church. When my wife left me I honestly was broken , and all I can think about was why?

She was the one who made sure we got married in church she said that's the real way. But then why did she not keep her promise right?

Anyway she got into the wrong crowd and got picked up by the law. Who was there to see her inside the prison and court hearings. Who else. Offcourse me. Because I made a promise in front of god to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part ...

And I was there even after all she did against me I stuck to my promise because i dont wanna be judged against this in the other life.

But basically how do i see everyone now who wants to get married just because they can have an awesome wedding or whatever. Well it doesnt need to happen that way. My advice to them is just be with eachother because you love and want to be with eachother. Stay together because you feel happy together.

No need for marriage just live together and pray together and that's all you have to do

[Hidden]

There is no law that says you have to be married. It's not required for happiness or fulfillment. If you never want to do it again, you don't have to do it! Whatever your path is, make sure it's yours and not what anyone else expects of you.

[SoniaGorgeous in reply to Hidden]

Beautifully said, Thanks for this!

my relatives are pressuring me into “Marrying” cause it bothers them that I’m still unmarried at 25!!

But i just can’t right now, and tbh it’s non of their business, Or anyone’s business except for the person himself/herself.