Stable

[Kevin160]

My family life isnt too well, i mentioned before that my brother came this week, he was always the favorite and he was a big part of why our family was torn apart , he was always reckless and irresponsible , he wasted my father's money and he always sided wrong

Things are not going well , i guess my father finally snapped because he never stood up to my brother but he probably had Enough of his failures and all the dissapointments all these years

Im not too anxious eventhough they kept fighting in the house and it kept getting worse and we had to get involved anad bring up the past and it was a bit uncomfortable but im happy i kept it together

I walked my dog on the roof today, because it was raining dogs and cats , i got a bit anxious due to my fear of heights and my irrational thoughts towards triggering posts i read here that my therapist now advices me to avoid ,i usually dont think about heights but i get triggered easily and it just gets to my head ... I know these are irrational thoughts and im doing ok knowing im safe and what im thinking isnt true , but i just thought i would vent a bit to blow off some steam

[newbie1956]

I'm glad you shared this Kevin. We always appreciate an update.

IMO the best thing you can do is ignore the fighting words/actions between your father & brother. You've come a long way and it's great that you were able to 'keep it together'... We're proud of you.

Do you know that MANY people are afraid of heights? It's okay

[kevinloveslen]

Hello Kevin160 , Thank you for posting this. I am really sorry that your father has had so many problems with your brother, but I am proud that you were able to hold it together while they argued. I have an older brother who was extremely irresponsible for most of his life. My Dad died in 1995 at 5:30 am. At 2:00 am he had a conversation with my brother about not paying his way anymore. After that, he would go to my Mum for money, and she would give it to him. He is 49 right now and just recently got a job and had become extremely responsible. I write this to encourage you that people do grow up.

My Mum and I (and for the past 14 years my wife) have been praying diligently for my brother. I don't know what your spiritual beliefs are, but I have found that accepting Jesus into my heart and reading the Bible along with prayer, has really helped reduce my anxiety over the entire situation throughout the years. For a long time, I did not rely on Christ, and the arguments that my brother would have with my Dad and then my Mum after he passed on, were so full of anxiety that it had a big affect on my life. I wish you the best.

Please know that I am praying for you.

Kevin