Sleeplessness

[3crazydogs]

Hi .... dealing with anxiety. Don’t have much of a support system. My husband tries to help, my mom is in her 80’s ... I don’t want burden her, my daughter is getting married in April... don’t want to upset her.i don’t have any close friends for support. The anxiety is affecting my sleep. I’m looking for ways to get my mind off the anxiety.

[3crazydogs]

Hi there... not real good at meditation :-(. Unfortunately the activity that I physically enjoyed wasn’t good socially and I m finding it hard to find a replacement. Going to look into pickleball today... so fingers crossed this will work for me. But I’m introvert too and after the initial meeting with people ... no one seems interested in connecting with me. So I don’t know if I give off a bad vibe or maybe I annoy people cause I try to joke my way through me uncomfortably....

[hypercat54 in reply to 3crazydogs]

Hi it takes longer than the first meeting or two to make friends. You need to meet more people and eventually you will meet ones you want to connect with. Don't expect others to make all the running - you decide who you like and invite them out for a coffee or something.

Try and concentrate, instead of on yourself, on making the other person feel at ease and comfortable in your company and I guarantee that you will start making new friends. x

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You have a support system, husband, mother and daughter that you feel you will completely overload them so much by burden you won’t reach out to them.

No one has to dedicate their entire lives via being burdened or taking over finding resolutions to your issues, just lending an ear, giving words of encouragement, letting you know they are there so you know you are not suffering alone. This is isolating you, probably making things worse.

Maybe look to CBT. I use ACT-I mindfulness and acceptance. No matter what you choose, it’s all about involving calmness, relaxation, focus...breaking the chain of your everyday thoughts and ways to process and cope. This is not something you do a day or two, you need to commit, practice everyday. I also use exercise, greatly helps stress and anxiety and you can exercise alone. Doesn’t have to be high impact exercise.

I’m an introvert too an extent, I don’t have social friends either, but I do have insomnia, greatly aggravated by anxiety. I have my family and we like quiet and keeping to our selves, but once you get things in your life into better perspective, you will feel like meeting people or at least start being open to it. I am, I just like staying home.

[3crazydogs]

Thank you. Your comments are very helpful. I appreciate you taking the time. I’m so glad I found this forum! Just being able to share and know that there are others like me helps a lot.