Just Sad

[SoBlueDntKnowWhat2do]

I feel so alone in this world. My family just abuses me and takes me for granted. I want to run away. Life is so hard as a mother and a wife. I can't do this anymore.

[Grateful71]

Yes life can be hard work being a mother and wife but remember that's not all you are. I don't know what age your children are but even if they are young perhaps you could start to involve them in helping around the house, giving them small jobs to do and praising their efforts. As my kids got older I was working but found myself still doing everything and fighting with my husband as I felt he wasn't pulling his weight! Through lots of talking I learned that he thought I did everything because I needed to be in control and he feared me criticising him if he didn't get it right. We now use a white board and I write down what jobs need done and who should bro them...still have some disagreement s bit I have let go some of my need to control everything as it came from a place of fear and anxiety. I thought I was a failure if I didn't live up to what I thought a good mother should be. It's not ok to be or feel abused so maybe this is where change needs to happen first, if your family are used to you doing everything for them, then it might be difficult initially for them to accept that they have to change too ♥️

[NeuronerdDoaty]

You are so right about the mother wife thing. I had kids but I couldn’t be the wife as well. I’m no housewife. I tried. I’m too driven. I have fantastic driven grown kids now. They are remarkable. I worked part time until my youngest went to school.

If this is for you the loneliness passes. Find some groups. I started with my kids at the free Tuesday morning library time for their age groups. Our local hardware store had a Saturday class to build something easy. We had a play in the park group which was about 12-3 every Sunday afternoon. Bring food. (I set that up.)

As for people abusing you and taking you for granted you have to stop that. It will happen your whole life unless you learn boundaries and stick to them. I’m a ‘no’ sayer. It’s the first thing out of my mouth. ‘I can’t that day’ is second. People laugh at me or others who don’t know me. I’ve got good friends and finally a good husband.

Take care of you first.

[Billsfriend in reply to NeuronerdDoaty]

Thanks, your response is an inspiration to me as well.