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My car is in the shop. I don’t have family to spend Thanksgiving with. I can’t even get a ride to the church thanksgiving dinner. I cannot afford to take an Uber.

It’s Hell being so invisible to the ppl around you.

I can’t stop crying.

My life wasn’t supposed to be like this...

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NeuronerdDoaty

Your life is exactly where it’s supposed to be. Did you have a picture in your head of expectations and the real world didn’t measure up? It never does. Is that today’s lesson?

It’s just a day. I’m sitting on a sofa with my dog eating a leftover salad. I’ll do this tomorrow as well.

I have no expectations. That way when good stuff happens I’m overwhelmed.

Make your life what you want. Don’t look at traditions and societies expectations. Next year I’ll be jumping out of a plane with my best friend. Who needs turkey?

The way I see it is you have a blank slate and freedom to make the rest of your life whatever you want. Put it in motion. Don’t expect anyone to save you. It doesn’t happen. The power is you.

I want to hear your progress as you go. Today is the first day of the rest of your life.

You are worthy and you are loved.

Doaty💛

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BetaTogetha

This holiday may not be the best, but you’re not alone. The holidays can be a difficult time for those of us who don’t have a family to celebrate with, but it doesn’t have to be bad just because you’re alone. You could try finding an alternative way of celebration for yourself. Like baking some bread, making a casserole, or trying a new recipe. If that all seems too much you could always just make some popcorn and a hot cocoa and watch a favorite movie. There are lots of ways to still have a good day.

Best wishes

Hi. I feel your pain. Can i help. Noby here deserves these feeling. What wrong with car?

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It gets 12-18 mpg. Should be getting 28-30 mpg in city and 40 on the highway.

2015 Chevy Sonic.

No check engine light or failure codes.

All the engine sensors check out fine.

I’ve taken it to several mechanics the past three months and nobody can figure out why it is getting such poor gas mileage...

Currently at another shop to try to figure this out.

It’s been a nightmare dealing w this car.

Got the car three months ago after I got rear ended and my old car got totaled.

Been there since Monday.

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Car drives like a new car- no other symptoms.

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What kind of gas do you use?

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Booklover0219

I agree with Neuronerd. Define your life for yourself. Adapt to what works for you rather than what society’s norms say you “should” be doing. I’ve slowly been getting better at this and I can tell you it’s very liberating.

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Pixels12345

It’s the loneliness aspect that makes it so hard...

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NWGal

Sweetie - call the church and ask if someone could pick you up. People want to help if they can and it's such a simple task. See what happens!

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I did.

:/

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What did they say?

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Junella

I will bet you know someone else who is alone. Give them a call or someone you know. You don't give your age, but there are many elderly people alone on the holidays. Pray for them, and don't forget to pray for you! You are very important and not really alone.

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Samson1953

HI no matter what u do either by youself find at least one thing to be thankful for. It will make u feel better. Ask the the church any church if u can volunteer to help n you need a ride. See what happens. My best wishes to you n enjoy the day. This too shall pass.

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Pixels12345

I found a ride there and back,

My roommate left me money for an Uber if I needed rides.

Very sweet of him.

Enjoyable time.

I have a hard time w being alone.

I wish I could become more comfortable with it.

I felt alone even in my childhood because of severe abuse and being the family scapegoat.

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I am so happy to hear that someone showed you kindness and you got to go! I honestly believe God sends us little blessings like this to remind us to hold on, don’t give up, and find strength to get through.

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Indeed

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Pixels12345

Thank you everyone for your support and kindness.

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50percentMe

Dear Pixels12345 - I just now read your post. I'm sorry you were alone for Thanksgiving. I know what that's like all too well. I feel alone/abandoned most of the time, even amongst people who I expect to care. It's so painful and eats you from the inside out. I'm glad to hear you're a believer and attend church. I don't know what denomination, if any, you belong, but I've found Charles Stanley, In touch ministries online and televised very comforting. Take a peak at intouch.org. There are several sermons that you can listen to that may give you guidance. Even though I'm not Baptist, I purchased several of his books. Bible study is the best therapy for me during times I feel hopeless. Hugs and prayers.

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