I was at a wedding tonight and it struck me when the bride and groom dance to their first song together , i remember when me and my wife danced to our song...looking back till today I dont understand why or how our marriage turned to s#/^% but all i know is god is good god is great, he will continue to guide and bless us all . But honestly tonight just kind of reminded me of my special day . But enough said those days are gone and today is a new day, amen amen 2020 yaayy baby bring it on give me some sign of a new beginning. Yes the lord has spoke and he will continue to speak to us for as long as we listen.
I think once you've been divorced (or still married but struggling), weddings can be really hard to attend. It's so easy to have nostalgia for the feelings of hope you had on that day. I don't know about you, but "failing" in my first marriage still feels like one of my greatest life failures. It doesn't matter that my ex turned out to be completely wrong for me and has done some atrocious things since we got divorced. The sight of a couple who has remained happily married for 10 years or more can still trigger all sorts of self-critical thoughts: "I should have known better to marry him," "if I were fun/adventurous/pretty enough, he wouldn't have lost interest," "I don't have the skills that my friends do who have stayed happily married", etc. No one ever gets married thinking he or she will wind up as a statistic. With that said, I suppose we have to talk back to these thoughts by reminding ourselves that marriage is very complex. It's a combination of two people, and it's very rare that one person is solely to blame for the deterioration of a relationship. People change over time, and sometimes the person you thought you were marrying doesn't grow with you in the ways you expect. I try to tell myself that marriage is a life lesson that I didn't want to learn, but needed to learn. You seldom meet interesting people who have had everything in life go exactly as they planned :).
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