lingering feelings

[admirablesloth]

You ever have such bad social anxiety/insecurities you feel like you don’t know yourself? Or you feel disconnected from everything even though you’re actually really empathetic from the outside in?

I deal with this on the daily and I’m getting really tired of trying so hard and losing myself a little bit more each time I feel I can’t fit in right

[Moon_B]

I have the same feeling but it gets better with time. I am still feeling like a fainted version of myself and I imagine that everybody hate me or find be so boring and weird but I try to engage from time to time it's the only way to feel better. I used to be terrible at social things and now from time to time I can talk but I am still abnormally shy and worried.

It gets better as you get older I think. Build your self-esteem and make small steps. Don't put pression on yourself to be ''accepted'' or ''liked'' by others. You probably are but still feel like you don't belong. Most people truly don't care as much as we care about others and how well others and themselves perform socially. It's all our assumption that we don't belong but that is because we feel this way not because it is the reality. Self-esteem is the root of this feeling.

Best wishes and Happy Holidays!

[admirablesloth in reply to Moon_B]

That is all so true, sometimes our minds don’t believe it but it’s the truth!! A lot of times people don’t notice or don’t really care about the small socially awkward moments, and even if they did they’re not nearly thinking about it as much as we are so we torture ourselves for nothing. That’s a great perspective though, we just have to keep telling ourselves that to make make something small a lot bigger than it is ☺️

[Hidden]

Yeah. It hurts feeling like an outcast most of the time. I just decided to be me. Let them think what they want. The most important thing is my happiness.

[admirablesloth in reply to Hidden]

Love that perspective ☺️ I’m trying to keep that mentality whenever I care too much about others opinions and in return ignoring my own

[Cat_cat44]

Yes I feel that way all the time, I can be sitting with family and feel so out of place. But I agree with the other reply about not worrying what others think. We're probably doing just fine and don't even appear that way to them.

[admirablesloth in reply to Cat_cat44]

Yes!! That’s the worst, ESPECIALLY when it’s family. We probably pull it off way better than we think, the goal tho is to get the point of not having to pull anything off and naturally just being ourselves regardless of what anyone thinks 😊

[Hidden]

Thank you. It wasn't easy at first. It took a long time for me to realize that it don't matter. What matters is "me". What makes me happy.

In the long run, I had learned to love myself despite the many imperfections.