To be more mindful... and get rid of some bad habits along the way...Wherever You Go There You Are -
that’s the book I’m rereading by Jon Kabat-Zinn about mindfulness.
Creative visualization-
A book and workbook about creating what outcomes you want in life through visualization ( by Shazti Gawain
I’ve been feeling scattered in thinking, scared, unfocused, sad, worried and stuck so I hope if I delve into these, try hard, grow belief, things will get better.
Well it's worth a try. You may receive some helpful advice for yourself or to share. Happy reading!
It’s hard to stay focused on reading, has been for over a year but any bit I can manage you know? I saw that you posted about trouble reading and writing. I feel that type of pain and I realize I take things for granted.
Glad you are feeling like posting again, Starrlight. I can't praise Mindfulness enough. You will really benefit from taking on board some new ways of thinking and getting rid of the Mindtrap that we find ourselves walking into.
Remember, your life is a reflection of your thoughts, so think nice ones!
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Hi Saltwater!!!!! Good to read you! Yeah I have intrusive thoughts from ocd and it is not at all ok with me which is why I’m really fighting now it’s hit a crazy level of pain and I’m hoping I will stand a chance with retraining to positive thoughts...but mostly I don’t believe... but it’s all I know to do is to try as mindfulness had helped in the past.
Yes. I certainly relate. I get them too. Absolutely horrible thoughts and scenarios just pop in my head and unwelcome images. They can be frightening and unsettling. I don't know why they punish me but they do. I was chatting about it on here not so long ago and talking about ways to make them stop.....not paying them any attention.....knowing that they are just thoughts, they're not real events and you're not bad for having them in your head.
I tend to think of them as just spam. Like the trash you get in your email. Most people don't pay any mind to them, but some people can feel like they mean something or feel they are bad for having them which makes them stand out more. The more you pay them mind, the more they stay.
Our spam filters don't work so well when we have OCD and depression because we are more tuned in to pain and are more sensitised to information so every little detail becomes painfully obvious!
I try to shake them out and not attach any meaning to them. I acknowledge that they are there and roll my eyes at the thought and try and carry on.
They are not facts, just creations. They are certainly not warnings or messages or anything else significant.
You'd be surprised how many of us get them but many people don't think anything of them and many others don't admit to having them.
I really hope you find some relief in Mindfulness. It really helps me to just slow things down and focus on the now. It takes some of the panic and stress away because you realise that a lot of what you worry about hasn't even happened yet. We worry so much and focus so much on negative things, trying to control our anxiety but all we do is create anxiety for ourselves. Then our OCD kicks in to try to control the stress we are under which makes even more negative thoughts creep in.
It's so exhausting.
I honestly would love an off switch at the back of my head. It drives me nuts some times. I can't even sleep without waking up feeling traumatised by my dreams!
Maybe I'll just stay up tonight and eat cake.....
Yeah I agree that filtering or ignoring is a great way when we can manage too. Thanks for your understanding. You explained well. I’m at a dentist with my son and I’m having a panic attack and I’m pissed off from it. I have been drinking but I know long run that’s worse... I just have to get stronger... I just have to.
Thanks for that Star, been feeling the way you are. My stomachs been hurting me everyday. Might be losing my apartment? My landlord is looking to sell the complex where I live? I’m scared I might be asked to leave? I have nowhere to go? I have a bankruptcy on my record so landlords won’t rent to me. I’m looking for a room to rent maybe I’ll have better luck? I’m upset too because to do this during the Christmas holiday, us tenants can’t focus on Christmas now what’s going to happen? She surly could have waited 3 weeks? She has been a difficult landlord accusing tenants of doing things we didn’t do. Sending us letters in a yelling type wording All CAPS and lots of !!!!! Those. Iam intimidated by her I need a letter of reference from her so I’m afraid to rock the boat. So I keep from letting her pull me into a confrontation. She has had some with the other tenants. I’m glad the book you’re reading is helping you, you deserve it 😊
I’m so so sorry to hear. I wish I could be of help to you. Usually things do work themselves out I know. Try to hold onto that. I will be praying and send warm positive vibes out to you and will be thinking of you with hope in my heart for you.
Thank you for your support and kind words are PRICELESS. I have to deal with this myself. I’ve been praying. Sometimes when I think the worse, it doesn’t happen? Hopefully that will be the case I wish you the Best also🌲😊🙏🏼
Aww 🥰 ...
same here-I think the worst often but usually things end up going much better than expected. Let’s keep in touch. I’m here for you.
Thank you, I’m here for you too😊🙏🏼
Thanks 🙏 😊
Your welcome, I figured why too I’m scared about my situation is that someone else is in control of my destiny. Their deciding when or if I move? I’ve pretty much decided what happens. 😔
I will be thinking of you. I really hope that things will work out for you. Sometimes hope is all we have. There is a certain amount of peace that comes from acceptance of a situation, but when we are like a twig in a stream, there is a sense of helplessness but it is not the same as hopelessness.
I sincerely hope that things turn out okay. I have thousands in debt and am always struggling to keep banks off my back. I am also scared about my situation and it creates huge anxiety and digestion issues, headaches etc.
This very same situation is happening to someone I know. You have rights you know. There is a process that has to be gone through and she must abide by it. The person I know is just staying put and refusing to move. If the landlord wants them out it has to then be by eviction, and the process takes longer buying the family time.
In this case, is there no chance the property can't continue to be rented to you with the new owners. Bankruptcy or not, you are a legal tenant and you have rights to remain in your home where possible. New landlords often like to keep the old tenants.
Honestly, stories like this make my heart bleed. I can feel the squeeze in my chest. What is wrong with people to do this at Christmas? I mean seriously?
Thanks for your support it’s possible the new owners will let me stay? But might also raise the rent? The now owners just raised my rent can’t afford to keep paying more. I over heard the possible new owners saying that I was a long time tenant. I’ve been here 20 years Never late with the rent. I wouldn’t allow myself to be evicted that goes on your credit plus my bankruptcy makes me a double Threat to any new landlord? She’s a Mean person, I avoid her she’s tried blaming me and my kids for things we didn’t do. The tenants get what I call Yelling letters from her sometimes . Trying so Hard to enjoy Christmas for my grandson n kids I try to tell myself I’ll get through this? God Bless you and Happy Holidays 🌲🙏🏼
I understand. So sorry you are going through this. God bless you too. Try and remain hopeful.
Thanks, I’m so tired of being tired. I don’t remember what it’s like to be HAPPY and that’s All I want, don’t feel it’s ever going to happen? Hoping and Praying 🙏🏼 HAPPY HOLIDAYS🌲
I know. I feel that too. So many worries. So many struggles. I don't think people are left alone to be happy these days. We are pushed and shoved through life and those that can't keep up or don't want to are trampled and walked over.
I just want to live simply but society doesn't let us. It's all greed and disregard for people. What is happening to you is not your fault. It's what's wrong with society. Society is broken and hearts are breaking because of it.
I agree with everything you wrote. I’m trying to not think about what’s going on there’s nothing I can do about it. Hopefully we can stay and look to move? I can’t keep paying the rent here. My stomach is in knots. It’s that my future is in someone else’s hands. I’m use to deciding things for myself not a Total Stranger. I’m looking for a job. Got people my age it’s not easy, I’m 64. I’ve had a couple of them but couldn’t do them, they were too physically demanding. My health isn’t good either. I have diabetes I get tired easily. So thanks for your support.
(((((Hug))))) I think it’s smart of you to not keep thinking of things that you don’t have control over. It’s hard though. I have a situation that keeps popping up in my mind so I try to switch it off. There are so many amazing things I could be focused on but it’s hard like my mind doesn’t want to think happy calm thoughts.
But for both of us, things will work out I believe.
You’re an inspiration, shooting star story girl 💫.🌟🙃
Thanks 🙃 Silly Oh shooting star and story added? I must be getting somewhere then, eh?! Hope u r well
Mindfulness can be very helpful. I should learn more about it myself. But sometimes it's just too much for me to process and some of it works for me, other parts don't. If it's ok I have one suggestion for you that has been really helpful for me: buy a small notebook and keep track of the things you find work best. I have one and on bad days I go to my notebook. I bought one with a bright pattern on the cover. I wrote in it with gel pens in colors that match the cover. Good Luck. HUGS!
Same! Sometimes I can’t process it... awww thanks for the tip my friend!
Hope it helps.
Thanks for the tip. I badly needed a good book to help me ease my depression, anxiety, stress and never endless racing thoughts with worries.
Awesome Jewelmoon17, we could read together.
Good for you sis... It's all about turning the negative thoughts away and focus on the positive ones. You've got this...stay strong and keep your power!
Sparkles and dump trucks of groovy love, peace, light, joy and hugs Star!
For sure sis! I’m trying. Powering up for the day; so far so good. Best to you!
Do your best to feed only positive into your mind today, push the negative out! I love you sis, you're the best one I have!
Sparkles & dump trucks of groovy love, peace, light, joy & hugs!
((((((((Huge Hug)))))))
Aaawweee do you know ..... YOU'RE the BEST!
Gazillions of huge warm hugs for you sis!
Sparkles & dump trucks of groovy love, peace, light, joy & hugs Star!
Liking your snow? How much have you gotten? It’s supposed to snow a little tomorrow.
I've been loving it..we didn't get what they were calling for last night...only an inch....there's maybe 6 on the ground now...not much really...I hope you get snow...wish I could send some your way, it's so beautiful...
Sparkles & dump trucks of groovy love, peace, light, joy & hugs Star!
Now my weather forecast says no snow ... bummer...
To bad we don't have a super duper powerful snow blower..I could blow it your way...or better yet you could come for a visit...anytime my door is open for you!
Sparkles & dump trucks of groovy love, peace, light, joy & hugs Star!
Would be killer cool 😎 beautiful... some day...
I hope so...badly!
Yepper doodles more sparkles & dump trucks of groovy love, peace, light, joy & hugs Star!
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HI there! How you doin?
Sparkles and dump trucks of groovy love, peace, light, joy & hugs ellinaki!
Hi..How you doing..thank you..hehe, you always make me smile...lots of love peachy Lisa...
Now don't go smiling again....I'm Peachy Keen..I have had a huge blessing 2 weeks ago and have been on cloud 9....
Man you better have your happy on today, why? Because we have snow here, got 5-6 inches last night and it's going to continue all day, just think of the fun we could have in it! Oh man what a dream, and they say they can come true so my special friend I'll hang onto the dream of being able to get together one day...will you?
Sparkles & dump trucks of groovy love, peace, light, joy & hugs!
Yes, living it as we speak...
Yes there is definitely something in believing things can get better that helps...in my opinion..keeping the hope...
Thanks for sharing what you are reading too.
As always, sending you good wishes ❤️🌺 x
Thanks for taking the time my friend. Trying to look at positive side of situations, and learning from struggles is my hope.
Your more than welcome
I’m similar, I learn from my struggles and find ways of distracting and helping..
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Working on forgiving 
Claire Weekes book.
Just a quote 
I used to get physically abused 
