Feeling alone

[_noname_]

After thinking of having children for a really long time, I finally felt I was in the right place and with the right person to try to start. I had many conversations with my significant other and we have been trying for the last three months to get pregnant. This future baby was something that was actually making me feel happy and like life was looking ok for the first time in forever. My significant other just told me they changed their minds and they don’t want to have a child yet. I feel like an idiot for believing and hoping for something.

[Amlughelke]

I’m sorry this would make me feel awful too. Maybe you should ask him what changed his mind? There’s a chance that you could ease his worries if you know what is worrying him. I also have wanted children for a long time and haven’t been able to have one yet (trying for 3 years). It can be awful to have your hopes so high and then nothing to come of it.

[_noname_ in reply to Amlughelke]

I’ve asked and he says he’s not ready... but it confuses me, it messes with my feelings. To say yes let’s do this and to start planning things and buying things and then to change your mind, that hurts. It’s ok for people to change their mind but when it’s something like this, this was a huge decision and who knows? I may already be pregnant. And he has known for a while that he changed his mind, he only told me just now... i can’t describe exactly how it feels but it’s awful. I’m sorry you’ve been trying for so long with no results. Have you looked up some options online? Have you tried Pre-Seed, I’ve read great things about it! It has helped lots of couples who struggle.

[Amlughelke in reply to _noname_]

I’m almost done getting testing done, so I should know soon what’s wrong. I don’t know you or your husband, but I know that sometimes guys feel that they aren’t ready or don’t want kids because they are afraid of being a bad father. I don’t know if this is the case, but there is a chance it is. Don’t worry, he probably will come around sooner or later!

[_noname_ in reply to Amlughelke]

I hope your doctor will find a solution for you guys so you can start your family soon! Also, yes, that was one of his concerns. I’m trying to be supportive of his concerns and giving him advice but I do truly hope things turn around soon. Thank you!