My anxiety won’t stop about my oral herpes. Feel sick and can’t sleep. I feel so guilty and I don’t know why. Help

[Someoneiusedtoknow]

I don’t know why I’m still feeling such horrible anxiety. I feel sick to my stomach. Im freaking out about how I got oral herpes. And even though I notified my new partner that I have it. I still feel so much guilt and horrible. He doesn’t know how I got it. Legally I don’t need to tell anyone how I got it. I just need to notify partners that I have it. Which I’ve done. But this one girl knows and I’m just constantly freaking out that she’s telling people or she’s going to tell him how I got it. I need help. I’ve been popping anxiety meds every time I get an attack because my chest feels like it’s going to explode and I can’t breath and I just cry and cry. My bf has no idea why I keep getting anxiety attacks and he’s been so comforting. But I just want to break up with him so he doesn’t have to deal with me. And I can just be single and alone. Maybe that’s what I deserve. To be alone. I don’t know. I just don’t want to feel this guilt anymore. I’m scared no one will want to be with me if they find out how I got it. I’m scared they are going to think I’m a slut. I’m honest and I tell new partners I’ve gotten cold sores in my mouth and I have oral herpes... I don’t know why I feel so guilty still. Please help

[Dolphin14]

Mayb you need to go talk to someone about this. You are having a tough time dealing with it on your own.

What does the other person have to gain by talking behind your back. Was t her brother part of the problem? I thought I read that in another post. I could be wrong.

Your current boyfriend knows about it. Just go with that and move on.

[EleanorRose]

Your boyfriend knows about it; he may not know how you got it but the fact it doesn’t sound like he’s even asked how suggests that it’s not a big deal for him.

I can tell you are really struggling with this but sometimes things happen. You don’t need to carry this guilt forever - you can’t go on having this level of anxiety over it. It’s not fair to you.

Your boyfriend sounds like a really caring person, have you considered telling him the truth about it? Sometimes the truth really can set us free. If you tell him and he doesn’t care then your torment is over. Without knowing the story behind this, my hunch is this is far worse for you and your opinion of yourself is far worse than what other people would think.

[Hidden]

Hi - it is natural to feel anxious when you have some type of infection but it may give you consolation that medication covers all types of virus. Oral herpes with spots round the mouth is due to different viruses including chicken pox. You can use cream or ointment for spots, and sores, and try to improve your immune system. Taking vitamins and having tests for vitamin deficiencies and minerals and iron, might help you reassure yourself that we are all human. Viruses affect us all from the common cold to other viruses, so I think your disclosure has upset you. This is worrying as you must feel you are on planet Mars..

you are not alone. Thousands of people suffer from virus effects such as common cold sufferers, so you need to tell your acquaintances you had a virus which is common, related to shingles, chicken pox, and colds and you are being treated. Oral tablets can be taken for other sorts of herpes including genital under the brand name of Zovirax (Acyclovir).

Other natural remedies include virgin olive oil, and coconut oil found in supermarkets. They both contain substances which can help virus and bacterial infections. Hope you can try

and put this in perspective. Get well soon.