next year

[Rufus07]

told S O. I can’t do thanksgiving here next year and he got made at me. I told him the friends are just going to have to find somewhere else to go. He told me nope and he would do it and I can go somewhere else. So much for support.

[fauxartist]

Then I'd start planning for a really great holiday with a friend where you can enjoy eating out and the scenery.... let him do all the work and clean up after his friends...while you lay back and enjoy your vacation.

[Rufus07 in reply to fauxartist]

That’s probably what I’ll do

[fauxartist in reply to Rufus07]

Find some place cheap, but nice, so you can spend money on going out to nice dinners, lunch, snacks, and get cool stuff.... even sea shells are free...and good memories last forever.

[Rufus07 in reply to fauxartist]

Things will definitely be different next year

[fauxartist in reply to Rufus07]

Taking your power back is awesome.... it was a game changer for me. I lived with someone who slowly isolated me from everyone and everything that had been my support, I didn't even realize it till it was too late. I found myself working more and more and enjoying life less. Then when it suited them.... they did the unthinkable. And as much pain and hell as it was.... I finally was free after 15 years. I started making choices for myself and not for them anymore.

[Downandout123]

Let him do it all by himself and see how much work and planning go into everything! Lol. I think you'll be able to change his mind.

[Rufus07 in reply to Downandout123]

He won’t care.

[BlueAgave]

That's awful. Try to do something nice for yourself. You deserve it!

[AsoingerbobTheGreat in reply to BlueAgave]

I agree, BlueAgave! Rufus, you should think more about your own interests for now. Let those guys plan themselves, they don't need to rely in you. Stay safe! 👍🏼❤️

[Rufus07 in reply to BlueAgave]

The thing is, he’s always so supportive of my issues. I don’t know why he got so mad when I suggested not doing the holiday here next year.

[BlueAgave in reply to Rufus07]

Maybe he was having an off time himself. If he pays attention to how much work it is, he may realize you need a break. Delegate some tasks for him to do instead of just being off with his friends.

[Rufus07 in reply to BlueAgave]

He is frying the turkey so I don’t have to worry about that. That frees up the oven . Everyone is bringing something so that helps also. Yet I’m still so overwhelmed. I don’t like so many people being at my house. I hate entertaining. I’m going to try to do my best and retreat to my bedroom if necessary. Hope you have a good holiday🙂

[Midori in reply to Rufus07]

Frying a turkey? Sounds like a fire hazard to me, but what do I know, I'm from the UK.

Cheers, Midori

[Rufus07 in reply to Midori]

Right! I always thought the same thing. He’s done it 2 years in a row now with no issues thank God! It is very good though

[MaggieSylvie]

Well, if he's going to do it, hold him to it. In the UK, of course, we don't have Thanksgiving, but we do have Christmas. I can't imagine what it would be like to have two celebrations so close together. If you have help, I suppose that could be fun.

[Midori]

Time to remind him of Marriage vows, methinks!

Take yourself away for a few days and just enjoy the peace!

Cheers, Midori