The oversharing friend

[Itsgettingworse]

I'm an over-sharer. I cope with my past and anxiety by being open about it and finding humor in it. I kept so much in for so many years and it feels good to me to casually share my experiences in hope that someone can find comfort in/relate to/or learn from. But maybe I shouldn't do that? Am I just making people think I'm crazy? Thinking about that gives me anxiety. I don't share with everyone, just people I consider friends. But what if they hate it? Am I making them uncomfortable? How can I tell? I'm overthinking... right?

[Celtic27]

Hi there your doing the right thing people like your self are the lifeblood of this group sharing you experiences and helping others so don't worry about unfounded beliefs that your a problem! Start believing that you can make a difference to other and feel good doing it! Take care All the best david

[Itsgettingworse in reply to Celtic27]

Thank you so much. Your kind words are very encouraging and I appreciate it!

[quitter333]

At best you are just annoying. But you know.. many people are annoying for many reasons.

I can tell you that people enjoy doing NEW things and going on some common journey more than helping others.

Because helping is tiring. I am a "fire extinguisher" trying to help people in need, but I rarely get anything back. I would not particularly want to take upon myself burden of problems other people have. Listening to friend whining is one, but if he asks help all the time, I'd be tired of him/her and probably would try to only meet when we do some friend stuff why we even met - like playing hockey or drinking or whatever.

[LaPetiteGen]

Have you ever received verbal or nonverbal clues from your friends that they are annoyed or it's all too much? If this bothers you enough to cause you stress maybe you should talk about your concerns with a really close friend and ask for their honest opinion on whether or not you over-share to the point that it makes others uncomfortable. I agree with some of the other comments- sometimes it is refreshing to find a person who doesn't think they are perfect and are willing to just be authentic and real. Others can learn from your experiences and who knows maybe some are helped but it - the example that you can overcome your past in positive ways. Continue to be bold and brave and try not to second guess yourself too much.

[Itsgettingworse in reply to LaPetiteGen]

Thank you for this response. I have asked and no one has ever said anything negative about it or even thought of it as a big deal. Just me overthinking probably. These shares usually stem within conversation so maybe I'm just being insecure with my social skills and I am sure I have mentioned that aloud also haha. Thank you again for your help.

[Magicdreamer]

Hello Sunshine. ☀️ I also like to express my experiences. It helps me release. It's not actually about the person listening, it's just so I can hear myself. If you're expressing yourself and someone is just being there for you as a listener then that's a beautiful blessing. Keep those people. If they get tired of listening,they'll let you know. ❤️💐☀️

[Itsgettingworse in reply to Magicdreamer]

Thank you so much for your response ♡♡♡