Don’t know what to say

[Gaby0]

I’m going to visit my cousin tomorrow who is terminally ill with cancer and doesn’t have that much longer. I’m really anxious to go see her because I just don’t know what to say. I always feel awkward in situations like this. Like anything I say or do is wrong or hurtful. Any suggestions?

[sadskies00]

I’d say to say nothing. Sometimes the best way we can show our love and support is through action. Greet your cousin with a smile and warm hug and sit beside her. Talk about enjoyable and positive things and keep things normal. I don’t think it has to be awkward. I know she wants to spend her last days with those who love and care for her and she wants to enjoy them. Also, I’m very sorry for what your cousin, you, and your family are going through. ❤️i hope the visit goes well. Just remember to focus less on how your words/actions will be perceived and more on the love and support your dear cousin needs in that moment from you. If you do this, i believe the right words will come easily from the heart.

I hope this helps. xoxo

[hypercat54]

I agree with sadskies. Talk about the old days and good shared memories and take her mind off it as much as possible. I am so sorry to hear about your poor cousin x

[Shutterbug65]

Just take her hand and nothing needs to be said. Just being there, your presence is all that matters. Love doesn’t need to communicate, you don’t need to worry about what to say. She will know. And perhaps something from your past will come to mind, a shared moment only you and your cousin can remember. And if the tears come, let them.

I know how difficult this is for you.

[pink318]

Hello,

Your post reminds me of when I visited my close friend who has last stage cancer. When I saw her, I didn’t know what to say. She was in so much pain and could not even talked. I said hello, smiled at her but she was able to smile back at me even though she was hurting. I prayed for her. I talked to her about the funny things we had shared.

I’m so sorry to hear about your cousin. Praying for you and your whole family for peace and comfort as you all walk in this journey.

[kenster1]

hi im really sorry to hear that god bless you both and all concerned family.it can be tough but go with a gift that will make her smile treasure the time with her make it the happiest of occasions un well people pick up on the sadness we hold within so hard it may be try your best to smile even a tear on reflecting great memories.