Just feeling down....

[BrownEyesBlue]

I just feel so left out. Like I’m so awkward and odd and that people just don’t want me around. It feels like I’m never included and while I don’t necessarily need to be included, it hurts knowing I’m not. Even if that makes any sense.

When I was in a relationship it seemed like people were more inclined to invite me, and him, to gatherings and what not. Now once again, I feel like the outcast. The only one that doesn’t get invited.

And that relationship? Totally messed with my head. But yet I miss him.

I’m just so sad tonight and I’ve been doing so good. No one ever messages me or calls. I feel I’m the only one reaching out. I dunno. Sometimes I just feel like there’s no point anymore.

I feel so alone and lonely and I can’t deal with it. Like what’s so wrong with me? Why doesn’t anyone care about me? I’m going to end up alone.

I just don’t see a reason anymore........

[Dolphin14]

I'm sorry you feel so sad and lonely.

When you reach out to these people do they respond positively?

I think one of the tough parts of this illness is " life goes on" for those around is.

How often did you have contact prior to your illness? Mayb its just more noticeable to you now because you are sad and don't have your significant other any more?

I'm the opposite way. My friends keep reaching out, wanting to go out etc. I'm much better at saying yes than I was a few years ago. But, what runs through my head a lot is " I wish people wouldn't invite me"

Find something to keep you busy. I know we always say this and it probably sounds generic and hollow. But, keeping yourself busy is key. Busy can be anything that occupies the mind.

Take care of yourself.

[Chanshan]

Sorry to know you feeling lonely. This depression is such a disease and I can myself and others in depression are children of lesser God. No one able to help us. We have to try and lead normal life in spite of this pain. I am going through so much pain and as Dolphin14 mentioned I am not calling anyone or if someone calls not picking up. Want to stay alone and sleep in bed and not wanting to get out of bed. Don't worry you are not alone. We can only encourage each other as only we understand the pain. Take care and try to carry on...

[tbg1961]

You aren't alone. People like me will answer you if you reach out....I know I will answer you. I may not be online a terrible lot but, I can make it a point to check in on you and see how you're doing.

BEB, look around you....There are beautiful trees, flowers, colorful fall leaves in the fall and even the snow in the winter is beautiful. Rejoice that you are alive to see the splendors that we take for granted everyday.

Give me a shout out on my pm if you want to chat. I'm a bit old fashioned and out of the loop some, just shy of 60. But, I'll try to talk a bit more modern for you.

If I don't answer immediately don't freak out. I will answer as soon as I get it. You are now OFFICIALLY no longer alone!

[LilyAnnepuppy]

One of my idiosyncrasies is that I don’t want to run with the herd, but I want them to invite me to come along.

I try to moderate my social involvements to a few select people when I’m able. I do a lot of talking on the phone so that helps keep me connected.

I’m sorry you’re feeling so lonely, but that doesn’t always mean you’re alone. If that makes any sense. When I’m feeling down I try to hold onto as much hope and faith as I can muster. Keep putting one foot in front of the other.

[Mrspjsmom]

I have often felt like the odd one. The person who didn't fit in with my family and friends. The person always making an effort to stay in touch. And lonely. So, so lonely. While I still feel that way at times I have developed coping skills. I started going to a local mosaic studio with open hours. I socialize with a whole new group of people or when I'm not up to that I simply lose myself in whatever project I'm working on. I also found the courage to do things alone. Berry picking, going to the Farmer's Market are a few of my favorites. I run into people I know and sometimes find myself in conversations with people I've never met. Please try to find one little thing to do for yourself. Take a class or go to a market. It's hard at first but the more you do it the more you realize you are important. And when you aren't alone you have new things to talk about with family and friends. Good luck finding your niche.

[BrownEyesBlue]

Thank you to everyone for their kind words ♥️ I’m feeling a little better today.

[deadmanwalkingSCH]

I always said that having depression was the worse kind of pain anybody could have. I forgot what breaking up with someone who you really love and suffering from depression at the same time felt like. Just thinking about it hurts me. I wish there was a way for me to take away your pain. You are in a bad place right now and we are here for you. Reaching out for help tells me your not a quitter. Don't be sad get mad and fight away any bad thoughts you're having. Trust me and everybody here when we tell you it will get better with time. We are living proof. We only live once remember that. My mother was there for me, I went to her and cried like a baby. I hope there is someone there now with you. You know we are here for you. It just takes time. Hey please don't tell anybody that I cried like a little baby ok Your friend Steve...........Alicia Keys - We Are Here................youtu.be/HrKmDgk8Edg(Not working as expected?)

[BrownEyesBlue in reply to deadmanwalkingSCH]

Thank you Steve. That helped more than you know. I don’t have my mom to lean on as she is passed but I have some people I can count on.