You have to Really Want To

[Tbine]

Hello,. When i was going through all the BS that mental illness brought to my life without me ever asking for any of it!! I was a "victim" to my mother and father's toxic relationship, my father's punching bag. When my parents finally seperated for good, and after my 8 years of hell, i did not realize what was yet to come. When it did,and after it really sank in that "Nobody can really help me" and "i can remain a victim, or i have to really WANT and NEED to overcome this" as badly as i NEED TO BREATHE ! I CHOSE that i desperately wanted and needed to not remain a "victim", always looking for sympathy from other people my whole life,. Like many people i knew did. So with that being said,. I believe people CAN overcome things in their life if the WANT or NEED is GREATER than what it is you may be facing. UNLESS what your facing is the result of an incurable medical condition. Please don't confuse the two. Remaining a victim does bring rewards to some, like all the sympathy from people, and a never-ending excuse out of having to do or face many things in life. YOU have to make that CHOICE, nobody else can decide it for you. Just be sure that this choice is something you can feel good about, and live with.

[JEG325]

Great advice, Tbine!

[Hidden in reply to JEG325]

Ditto

[Tbine in reply to Hidden]

Thank You 😜

[Tbine in reply to JEG325]

Thank You 😁

[AllTimeLow]

Dealing with this now.

[Tbine in reply to AllTimeLow]

What's going on?

[AllTimeLow in reply to Tbine]

Absolutely depressed. No hope.

[Hb2003 in reply to AllTimeLow]

I am sorry hope you feel better

[AllTimeLow in reply to Hb2003]

Thank you.

[Hb2003]

Wonderful advice 😊

[Marysblue]

Awesome.

You went from being the victim to the hero in your story.

[Mrspjsmom]

Glad you made the right choice for you. I just turned 57 and can somewhat relate to what you dealt with from your parents. No criticism just a friendly warning to be prepared...this experience will haunt you the rest of your life. Often when you least expect it. So stay strong. Keep hope in your heart and know we are all here to support you. HUGS and BLESSINGS!

[Tbine in reply to Mrspjsmom]

Thank You for the heads up. I've come to terms with my life and how bad it has been even now, life has continued to beat me down, and i continue to ask why? Why is all this "necessary" and i believe I'll never know that answer. I'm 51 years old, and like i said i have come to terms with the way that my life has been up to now and i don't expect anything else but more of the same. The one very good thing that has happened to me as a result of hitting rock bottom more than once, but not because of drugs or alcohol,. Is that i found Jesus and through him, i have come to understand life at a deeper level than i have ever known before, and i have something to look foward to that this life will never or could never provide.