New here - Missing therapy appointments.

[Bunny649]

I feel better when I'm in therapy.. but forcing myself to make an appointment, or show up for appointments feels impossible. It's so close to my house. I feel awful for not making an appointment, even just putting it out there that I missed my last appointment is making me feel nauseous.

I am a happy person, but my anxiety runs my life sometimes. It's so much easier when I just.. go to therapy. I want to go, but for some reason I keep forgetting.. or booking it when I have work and then having to cancel last minute.. I get bad when I'm not in therapy. I don't want that. But I don't know how to make sure I make appointments or go to them. It feels harder than running errands or going to see friends. It's easier to try and ignore my anxiety until it gets worse again.

I hope writing this post will help me with getting myself into gear and calling the office tomorrow morning.

[emg2806]

i go to therapy every week and i make sure that’s the one thing i do ! you need that one day for 45 mins to go in there with all your anxiety and let it out. let your therapist be your person for that time and release everything. set an alarm tmw morning and call up the office and set an appointment, try and see if you could have the same appointment weekly so it’s apart of your routine and you’ll be looking forward to going.

[Bunny649 in reply to emg2806]

Thank you very much for this. I appreciate the response. I am going to call the office to make an appointment.

[emg2806]

i understand the feeling of anxiety running your life and you not wanting to go anywhere but when i feel that way i call up my therapist. if you ever feel that way i’m sure i’ll be feeling the same it’s been rough. you could always pm me

[Dolphin14]

You have to make the appointment your priority.

I agree with emg. When I couldn't get out of the house I forced myself to therapy. That's the only appointment I kept. I couldn't leave the house for anything else. I was sick with anxiety going but I knew it was the only thing that was going to make me better. I go to two types of therapy every week. I have the same hours every week.

If you can go to work and function at a job, you are capable of making that appointment.

Could you possibly be avoiding it for some reason?

[AliceLiddell]

Acknowledging you want and need to go to therapy is huge in itself and you should be proud of yourself for that. Maybe you could find a way to make it more of a reward than a burden, or a struggle. Yourself even knows it's the right thing to do, trust that gut and know that darkness can go away, but you have to turn on the light, luckily, you know the first step Could you maybe take a walk to the building? Getting up and moving is a good way to motivate you, and at least for me personally, it makes it harder to walk away from situations like this.

[Bunny649 in reply to AliceLiddell]

Thank you. That's incredibly encouraging. I truly appreciate it.

[Coralrose5]

I feel you. I have done something similar. Often times the best thing we can do for ourselves is the hardest thing we have to do.

[sad_panda_]

When I have a really hard time doing something (most recently an internal pelvic floor exam), I make a reward afterwards for me (which was eating out at one of my fav places immediately afterwards).

It helped motivate me and made it feel less awful knowing I had something that would pick my mood up a little afterwards. Your reward could be anything- from having snacks and a fav movie lined up at home to snuggles with your pets while you read to picking up some flowers to brighten your mood or ice cream on the way home. Find something that fits for you and make it a part of your routine 💗