Feeling Useless

[RedDahlia1]

Does anyone ever feel like, from a purely financial perspective, that everyone's lives would be easier without you? I don't make enough money and the only way for me to make more at the moment is to take a promotion that I do not want. The thought of this promotion makes me want to cry and it almost always causes an immediate panic attack. My panic is holding me back financially and that is holding me and my fiance back financially. I am the reason we can never get ahead and I just feel so useless.

[Sprinkle1]

Hello, A good way to make yourself useful is to seek out a quality therapist if you do not want the promotion, do not take it. Listen to what your heart wants, be true to yourself and let a therapist help you. They are great, I would not be without mine. Sprinkle 1.....

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I think a person's mental health must come before everything. More money would make life easier but what is the point in taking a promotion if it makes a persons anxiety worse.

[gerrerd]

Money cant make people happy ! in fact it usually does cause more problems were family is concerned ! Living a simple life is more rewarding ! with nature ! the modern so called world, will have you chasing your tail all your life. Happiness is within !

[kenster1]

its a difficult call promotion means more on your shoulders to deal with but at the same time it shows you as a grafter and respected person in the job to be considered for the propmotion.be honest with your employers explain how you feel maybe ask for a trial period and if its not working out revert back to your old position.

[lawdog]

Well, first I should say "hello and welcome to the choir". This feeling is not uncommon, and it takes work on your self image to blow the smoke away from those thoughts. Unless this promotion pays so much more, it won't really help your life or your fiance. And it is not totally your responsility to provide more money. Perhaps you can look at alternatives . And maybe you could talk with your fiancee about how you are feeling, It is difficult moment to earn a living for the two of you. But there are the two of you. Reach out. Once I remember pulling the sheets back over my head one morning when financially I could not afford to eat some days. You are checking out that promotion; I was going back to school. Just kept thinking "is this really my life now.?". I finally got passed that thinking....but several people I met offered suggestions I never would have considered. You may want to seek out some suggestions of others that you trust. Perhaps taking or not taking this promotion is not the biggest issue you face. Maybe you need to discuss with others what is it about this promotion that freaks you out. If certain things about the promotion can be changed may a change how you feel about it and yourself. Sometimes employers are open to modifcations . I will be thinking about you....and it's ok to pull the sheet over your head in the mornings sometimes.

[kvolm2016]

I'm sorry that you are feeling this way and carrying this burden. I hope you are getting the strong message from all these replies that it is unwise to reduce your life to a single factor. There are probably many people who could be making more money but if it is at the expense of your physical or emotional health, then it is not a wise choice. Is your last statement made in response to pressure from yourself or from your fiancee? What is your fiancee's expectation of your financial contribution to your relationship?