Missing my son

[BC2004]

He is in rehab since yesterday at 17 and I am suffering knowing it’s hard inside trying to beat the addiction

[Mary-intussuception]

This must be a very difficult time for you. Do you know how long he will be in there.?

[BC2004]

Yes at least 45 days he is addicted to cannabis and alcohol

[lillyofthevalley37]

You can only be psychologically addicted to cannabis, it could be alot worse I hope your son learns how to cope

He's in the right place so let that be a comfort ?

[Hidden]

Hello BC2004. You sound like a loving and supportive parent. It is touching you miss your son. I understand it is hard to be apart from him but he really is in the best possible place. Just think of how much healthier he will be when he is home with you. Best wishes.

[fauxartist]

The most important thing for your son is that he is in rehab to at least give him a safe environment to stop drinking if he is willing to do the work. He has to do this for himself. And you’re best support would be to learn how to be supportive without being enabling. Alanon is a great program for parents, spouses, and friends to learn how to take care of themselves while living with a recovering or an active alcoholic.

Pot doesn't have the same chemical addictive quality that alcohol, cocaine, heroin, opioids.... But it's true that if you are predisposed for addiction, anything can be addictive....that's an endorphin rush that gamblers, sex addicts, etc. get.

[BC2004]

I hope he can control his urges he was going at it too much non stop

[SuZQ154]

You sound concerned for your son. That is understandable because you are his mom. It is HARD! Taking care of yourself and learning about how to relate to your son in "new" ways may be worthwhile for you right now. When my daughter went through rehab, I learned I was codependent with her and had to learn "new", less enabling, more boundary-setting behaviors. This may or may not be your situation, but I have it on my heart to share this with you. Praying for you and your son today! Please keep posting.

[BC2004 in reply to SuZQ154]

Thanks for the advice and I am very attached so I need to learn to be away as he will be 18 next year and might move away from my house

[SuZQ154 in reply to BC2004]

Have you ever heard of the book "Boundaries"? You might want to check it out. bit.ly/2J53Sxj it really helped me. There are other books on codependency which also helped! Praying for you today.

[NeuronerdDoaty]

I like to think of it as a healthy place. I’m proud of both of you for giving it the good fight. It’s so hard but you’re both being logical and thinking long term. He’s lucky he has you.

Sending peace and strength to you both.

Doaty💛