Lonely in San Jose

[Catman5]

I’m just going through a rough patch. Broke up with my girlfriend around 3 years ago but have kept in touch with her on a weekly basis.

Was hoping to reconcile but found out she’s been seeing someone for a long time but never mentioned it to me

[Bigbread]

I went through a very similar let down just last week. Afterwards, I mustered the courage to set the appropriate boundary (the one I should have a year ago) and let the “friendship” go. It wasn’t serving me. Sounds like your connection to your ex is not serving you either.

I feel awful and empowered at the same time. My guess is the empowered feeling will persist while the shitty feeling will recede.

There’s a guided visualization I listen to that uses the imagery of holding onto rotting logs as what blocks the flow of our internal river. The attachment to my ex is most definitely my rotting log. Is it the same for you with yours?

[Catman5 in reply to Bigbread]

Yes, the problem is she sends me texts saying that she misses me and is listening to an old iPod with my music on it and is enjoying the music and thinking of me. The thing is is that I was fine a week ago but now that I learned that she is living with this guy I am obsessed with that thought.

[Catman5 in reply to Bigbread]

Thanks for the timely reply. I really appreciate it!!