A serious realization

[brokenspirit100]

Woke up this morning and realized my life has gotten to the point I have no family or friends support . I have to come to a support group and air out all my dirty laundry to complete strangers. The question is how did I get this bad and how can I fix it. I think as far as family it's a lost cause but there is always possibilities if we are willing to make new friends. I feel this time I'm going to be very selective on who my new friends will be . Need more and want more out of my life.

[Celtic27]

Hi there sorry to hear your struggling and feel your family and friends are not there! There maybe hope as you say but you can be selective about your friends but not so much with you family they are I would say are the most important help you can have! Whatever the problems please mend any burned bridges as family will always be there were friends will come and go! God bless you and good luck david

[brokenspirit100 in reply to Celtic27]

Sorry I would strongly have to disagree you can choose your friends but you can't choose your family sometimes you just stuck with family. I personally had strangers show more heart and compassion than any family member I have.

[Dolphin14 in reply to brokenspirit100]

I agree. My family hasn't supported me emotionally my whole life.

If I didn't have friends I would be lost.

[hypercat54 in reply to brokenspirit100]

Me too. I gave up expecting my family to be here for me a long time ago. I get all the love and approval I need from my friends instead. x

[All_alone in reply to brokenspirit100]

Very well said. And to add you can also choose to keep family at arms length or others in ones life. I had a complete stranger (cashier) tell me today that I was a wonderful person and a good friend for buying a small gift for someone. It was a nice surprise.

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I have learned to be self reliant.

[WindyPark]

I understand this completely. It's why I signed up and your post is the very first one I am replying to. Making new friends is hard because at my age (50), everyone seems to be already established in friendships and they look at you like you're some kind of alien because you have no one. Or maybe I'm just projecting? I don't know. I just know that I'm incredibly lonely and scared. I'm sorry that you're in this boat, too. Here's hoping we can both get the support we need and the friendships we desire♥

[No1wthayla]

My sisters don't talk to me. Neither do their 6 children or grandchildren. Started more than 10 years ago but just keeps getting bigger. My daughter is a good friend and I have a few other friends that I rely on. Even my in-laws are better family to me than my sisters.

[UFC80]

Its good that you are in acceptance and having this realization! Both are great and needed to start a new chapter in life! 😊