Social anxiety

Hi all, today my S.A. is sky high and it is just making me feel unsteady and unstable. Anything I do is done with the feeling of I'mbeing judged by strangers. I am just tired and have a headache of the stress and anxiety that is just illogical and ridiculous.

[CatIsMyCopilot]

Well, just know that I'm not judging you. I don't always struggle with social anxiety in particular, but when I'm anxious, I do feel very self conscious and nervous sometimes in social situations, worrying if others will notice my nervousness, or judge me for it.

Because I know the feeling, I don't judge you at all.

Of course it's hard when you're around the people in your life to imagine they might have ever struggled with something similar, but at least know that an internet stranger has

[Hidden in reply to CatIsMyCopilot]

Hi CatIsMyCopilot, I appreciate you trying to make me feel better honestly. Your support and non judgmental approach is very kind! 😊

[Hollick]

Hi Garfield, I hear ya, I get it..with SA and self consciousness, it really is about changing your mindset..is it easy, NO, one of the hardest things we'll ever have to do, but with time, patience and hard work, achievable..its the only way out of this dreadful distorted irrational, & self sabotaging way of thinking, is it not? Meds can help, but there's more to it, CBT, meditation etc...good vids on YouTube, check them out..good luck.

[Hidden in reply to Hollick]

Thank you. I know but I've been struggling with this my entire life and have yet to figure it out. Thank you for wishing me well. I wish you the same!

[Hollick in reply to Hidden]

Remember! its a mindset, it can be turned around with positive self talk n compassion..get rid of the evil inner critic

[Hidden in reply to Hollick]

Yeah, you're RIGHT. I think right now I will try my hardest to be my own friend and not enemy. I'll try to compliment myself and ignore negative thoughts about myself. We'll see how it goes haha

[LilyAnnepuppy]

For every hour I spend with people I need 3, 4 or 5 hours decompression time. I believe I need to socialize because communication with others is in my spiritual makeup. But, as a whole, the human race annoys me, so I live with conflicting emotions (as we all do). I’m better with small groups or one on one. I identify.

[Hollick in reply to LilyAnnepuppy]

Lily, I can so relate to what you said..OMG...like A LOT! it annoys me how society, people as a whole have changed, and I blame tech as a BIG part of it...the trick is, we still have to carry on, and people will be a part of that, no mater whether we like it or not..like you said, less is more, basically right? I'm more introverted as a result of this drastic change I've seen in people, but then I question, have I changed with all of 'this' as well? YES, conflicting emotions, very well worded, but we have to take it as it comes, really learn to let go! I do much better with smaller groups, just overwhelmed at how 'fast paced' everything and everyone is moving..I identify..

[LilyAnnepuppy in reply to Hollick]

For me, I can’t put much blame on the present state of the world. I was annoyed in the ‘80s. And another dichotomy in my emotional makeup is that I get much stimulation and growth from socializing (and sometimes - dare I say - enjoyment). For some of my career I was a newspaper community event reporter who talked to people about people I had to talk to! And I’m an introvert. Who can figure. I’ve read that introvert does not mean isolation. For me it reinforced my absolute need for soul rejuvenation.

[Hidden in reply to LilyAnnepuppy]

I'm the same any social interaction leaves me drained and then I usually isolate myself.

[Hollick]

yeah, me too..however isolation has negative ramifications,😥 especially if it goes on for a long time..its catch22