I face anxiety when speaking in public and when i talk i tend to mix up words.
Even when i speak i tend not to put my communication in clear sequence and it is messed up. Is there anyone like me and how can i become better in the fastest way.
Also i blush a lot especially when i am the center of attention and i never know why.
Thank you.
Hiya.
I have social anxiety and can struggle with similar things to you. Over time I’ve had cbt therapy and it has helped me..
I still struggle at times but I’m learning to overcome some things , it’s not easy and I found it was good to discuss my fears with a therapist.
I’m due more cbt therapy soon to discuss things..it helps me
If you are in the uk you can self refer for cbt online...
Best wishes xx
I am outside of uk (in the middle east). Have u tried any medicines? How long have u been through cbt?
I’ve been having cbt for a while for various things, not just social anxiety, I find it helpful, as in my opinion it’s about managing things to enable us not to have our lives affected, as anxieties can be so debilitating .
I do take medication for palpitations/ anxiety I guess they are like a beta blocker to stop the heart racing...but for social anxiety in my opinion therapy is best..knowledge is power and what we can learn from talking to therapists can help us move forward...
Xxx
Hi, you aren't alone. I'm retired and have had a lot of success in life, but I can still mess up my words and blush in social situations. It's embarrassing, though it doesn't affect my happiness these days.
One idea: understand if you're just introverted. Introverts are awesome people, responsible for a lot of the progress in the world, but life is harder for us in some ways. The book "Quiet" by Susan Cain is a really good user manual for introverts.
Another idea: the online course "10x Your SOCIAL SKILLS" on Udemy.com is pretty cheap and easy and has a lot of good ideas on getting more comfortable in social situations.
Take care, and know that you *can* get better at talking with others!
Hey Santos82,
I've experienced the same type of cognitive fog that leads me to say the wrong words for a couple of years now. It became more pronounced after a head injury last year. To make matters worse I'm a professor and speak to people and in front of large groups of people on a regular basis.
There were a few things that I had to accept. First, I needed to work on getting more restful sleep. Thankfully I'm averaging 8 to 9 hours per night and feeling much better. Second, I need it too slow everything down, not trying to multitask or hold onto thoughts. I just had to focus on the one thing that I wanted to say and take my time saying it.
Indeed, it has been very frustrating and embarassing. Finally, I had to accept that I have been exhausted from my anxiety and depression for many years now and the head injury certainly didn't help. I had to cut myself some slack to not worry about mixing up my words.
Be forgiving and generous in loving yourself.
I used to work with a physician who had to speak in seminars. I went everywhere with him. Every time he felt he was going to get locked up he would look at me. Eye contact with me settled his thoughts and tongue.
It’s not what we did it was a familiar ritual for him that centered him. Is there something you can do that will calm you or bring a moment to realign you. People don’t notice as much as you think.
Best of luck to you. 💛
Doaty
I used to blush a lot too which made me blush even more because I could tell they noticed and viewed me as weak. I resolved it by not paying attention to it and accepting it as one of my many quirks. I still blush in confrontational situations 😶
Sounds like regular social anxiety that we all experience for different times in our stressed out lives. Make sure. Is it protecting you to slow down?
Recognize it. Handle it. Ease your mind by going for an evaluation for talk therapy and meds.
You are definitely on the correct path by asking for help. Take care of yourself ---now!
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