I know you don’t really know me but

[Dreamie]

assume I am a peaceful person who has a lot of depression and anxiety. I am not perfect but I’m kind-hearted and I truly try to accept what I can’t change and change what I can. I prefer to look at how to improve rather than dwell on the negative and the past. I am being served barrels of shame and downright meanness from my husband. Don’t even know where to begin. He has been a totally miserable soul for so long know I don’t even know when it began. I think probably always but in the beginning we were so new and there were good times in between. Now rarely a good time. We’ve been together for 8 years. This is both of our second marriage. I’m going to try and clip this saga down. Looks like we are headed for divorce. We’ve had several episodes like this in the past. I’ve even left and gotten an attorney before though this is not the point. The point I’m trying to get to is due to a lot of reasons I cannot leave and he isn’t leaving either, at least right now, and somehow I’ve got to manage the huge anxiety I feel (which sometimes becomes so bad that I am nearly paralyzed in fear and hurt and sadness). I guess my question would be do y’all have any suggestions on how I can take care of myself through this awful time?

[Hidden]

Do you have any family or friends nearby that you can get away for a bit? You sure need a support system at this time....I'm here for you....

Dump trucks of love, peace, light, joy and cozy hugs for you!!!

[Dreamie in reply to Hidden]

Thank you Friend. I’ve already spent a week with my mom. Then 1 night at my cousins and 1 at my sisters. I’m currently dog sitting for a friend but I have to go home tonight. I have awful anxiety about being in the house with him. It’s mostly due to the atmosphere of doom and gloom. Fortunately I won’t get home til after 9 because I work tonight. I can go straight to bed in the spare room. I’m scared for the sadness and anxiety that’s coming tomorrow morning too. I’m trying to keep busy but it’s so hard to do when you want so bad to crawl under the covers. I have become very isolated over the years. I am glad that you are here for me anxiety_59. Thank you. 💗

[Hidden in reply to Dreamie]

Aw man I hear you and so feel for you...you may pm me if you'd like...I may not get back right away but I will for sure....you need to surround yourself with positive people at this time....

Dump trucks of love, peace, light, joy and cozy hugs!!!

[Dreamie in reply to Hidden]

I appreciate that. Y’all are my positive people that I can call on anytime. That’s such a blessing. 💗

[muddypawz1]

Maybe some calming music? If you get yourself a pair of noiseblocking headphones and lay in your bed it can feel like an oasis to get away for a bit. I know it’s not the best solution but I binge watch Netflix too if you have a TV in your room.

[Dreamie in reply to muddypawz1]

Yes I need some headphones. Great idea. Fortunately I sleep well usually anyway. And a good book always helps too. I need to fill my non working hours with positive activity for sure. 💗

[Hidden]

Hi Dreamie. Thank you so much for sharing. We’re here. We listen. We believe you. We care. You’re not alone. Hugs.

[crowningglory19]

I'm so sorry! If your husband is abusive, get away to a shelter or something before you get hurt more. If it is bearable, stay, like you say, at peace as much a s possible, mostly by not speaking or bringing up things but keep busy with a book or tv in free time. As far as taking care of your self, to be calm and in peace, taking magnesium malate helps a lot to calm heart mind and soul and ginseng helps to get rid of loopy sticky negative thoughts. They are great before bed. Also, get outside as much as possible to take in the sun and lay on grass with a book or something, it will bring peace at least in your heart and mind. I love audio books so they are "someone talking to me" to full the silence, with headphones if hubs is around. Breathe in deep peace and out frustration and speak positive truths to yourself that will counter the negative. Best to you, in the mean time. <3