Another Weekend

[Downandout123]

Well, here starts another weekend of absolutely nothing to do. Everyone else goes out and enjoys themselves, and here I am stuck-nobody to do anything with. Sooo sick of it!!!

[sweetiepye]

You don't know that, you imagine it. Not everyone has something to do this weekend.

[Hidden in reply to sweetiepye]

I agree, I look at other people and see how happy they are, but are they? We only surmise everything is good with them.

[sweetiepye in reply to Hidden]

I know this because I take great pains to appear as if I am in total control of my life. It seems to work because when I do tell one of the few how I really am they are usually quite surprised. The reason I don't confide in too many is because when I was new to anxiety and panic I did tell a friend about how fearful and lost I felt. She didn't say much , but I never saw her again. She just disappeared from my life, that was 50 years ago. In the mean time I am past all that and I like to imagine she is still a shit. Pam

[Hollick]

So why don't you go out and do the same? Is there a reason why you can't, perhaps I missed something? Just a suggestion..

[Downandout123 in reply to Hollick]

Because I want to do things with other people. It isn't fun to me to do things by myself.

[Hollick in reply to Downandout123]

Okay buddy, I see what you mean..can I ask if your lonely, do you have some friends..weekends can be depressing and give me anxiety probably for a lot of the same reasons..suppose to be outdoors having fun right? NOT...lol...its also the summer for me, seasonal affective can occur at this time of year as well..don't like the heat like I used to, have a skin disorder and should avoid the sun at all costs..how do ya do that, ya know what I mean? anyways Down, I really hope you have a pleasant weekend wherever you are, wishing you and everyone well..PS...something I've learned painfully, is to enjoy my own company, but you have to love yourself first..now its not as painful, I know what you mean though, I get it.

[Downandout123 in reply to Hollick]

I only have one close friend, but haven't wanted to do anything with her lately. Plus, she lives a little bit far away. I'm in New York, so yes it's summer here as well. VERY HOT AND HUMID. I also HATE summer. I can't tolerate the heat very well. .In a little while, I'm going out in my backyard with my 3 dogs. There's a shady spot, so it won't be unbearable. I call it my little oasis. I have ALWAYS been a loner, but sometimes it is just TOOO MUCH loneliness. I wish you, -Hollick, and all you wonderful people on here, a wonderful weekend!!.😊

[Hollick in reply to Downandout123]

Thank you Down, I am so glad to hear that you have pooches 🐶, dogs are beautiful companions, I have a little one as well.. unfortunately, as much as we love them, they don't provide the same human contact, but I cherish my little one, I'm sure you do as well..I know buddy, when you say to much loneliness, its not healthy for anyone, I overthink and catastrophize when I feel the intensity of it...you know its sad, its become an epidemic, a real health crisis, yes loneliness, just look it up..all these lonely ppl, it would be so nice to unite some of them, yet there are so many, ya know? it would be hot n humid there, I just don't care for that combo of weather, kinda the same here today..glad you have the little oasis, somewhere that you can retrieve to, an escape...keep in touch if you'd like, try to stay strong and true to yourself, as this too shall pass..another summer, it'll be gone before we know it.

[Downandout123 in reply to Hollick]

Thank you Hollick! Yes-I'd be lost without my 3 girls! 🐶🐶🐶 I've always been an avid animal lover, and have always had dogs growing up, so I don't know what I'd do without them. I've done a lot of thinking today, and realize that there are definitely a lot worse things than loneliness. I can come and go as I please, without having to answer to anyone. My work week is full, so the weekends are MY time. What if I was in a bad marriage again? God knows you can even feel LONELIER when you are with someone, and the connection is not a good one. I guess because you have more expectations of what it should be like. I get up when I want, go to bed when I want, eat ice cream for dinner if I want, lol-you get the picture!! No one depending on me except my 3 lovely dogs-with unconditional love. 💖💖💖 God Bless!!

[Polara6ear]

Its better than surrounding yourself with drugs and a million fake people every week and feel the absolute alone. Trust me bud I'd love to just spend a week with just me and myself, relax and binge Netflix till I rot on my couch. Maybe I will.

[Downandout123 in reply to Polara6ear]

That sounds like my routine EVERY weekend!

[Muddypawz]

Have you tried the “Meetup” app? It’s got a ton of different groups with thousands of interests. I saw a new one today that was a UFO group. They read books and discuss the topic. That’s just one example. They have hiking, book clubs, haunted house groups, just about everything you can imagine. I joined a crochet group. Its a great way to meet new people.

[Downandout123 in reply to Muddypawz]

Yes I belong to one meet-up group. I go to a few of their events, but they aren't that often. A lot of them involve nights out dancing, I don't dance, so I don't go because it's awkward.

[Chancalot]

Glad you're feeling brighter!😃 Reach out to select ones with an invitation to a meal or an outing.

[Downandout123 in reply to Chancalot]

Thank you!

[Lazy_dog_lover]

What do you want to do? I work weekends. I enjoy the peace and quiet when I get home.

[Downandout123 in reply to Lazy_dog_lover]

I want to do something FUN. It's really terrible to not have anything to look forward to, after a long and tedious work week.

[Lazy_dog_lover]

Yes, but "fun" is subjective. You are comparing yourself to others' fun. Is it engaging with people you know that you want? Physical activity? A party-like atmosphere to escape into? Do you have a group of local friends that go out? Would you go out alone and do an activity?

[Downandout123 in reply to Lazy_dog_lover]

I totally agree that " fun" is subjective. Some things that people find "fun", I can't stand. So what is fun to me? How about this for starters-getting down to my ideal weight, so that if I DO happen to find fun, I can enjoy it much, much more. But that's not happening. I've been trying for SOO long now. Here's another big one-moving out of this house that I simply can't stand. That's not happening either because I have a day care center upstairs. That's a long story in itself.Let's see-pools are fun, but my OWN pool. Can't do that either. I LOVE boats. Wish I knew someone who had one, but I don't. I'd like to find a great guy. That too isn't happening. With him I could do lots of other fun stuff. I FEEL SOOO STUCK. I wouldn't go out alone and do an activity.

[Downandout123 in reply to Downandout123]

I'm feeling really down after writing my response. I feel like I don't even have control over the things I'm SUPPOSED TO have control over-like my weight. I feel like such a failure. Eh-whatever.