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I'm at work & just seen my husband & now having an attack & a meltdown

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The moment I left for work I started to worry. When my husband came to see at work, I seen how tired he looked & that made me very worried. When he left, I had an attack & started to cry. I had to calm down fast. Had no choice. I was at work.

I texted my daughter to make sure she does what she can to help out when he got home. I just really hope she listens. My chest hurts so bad right now. I'm so scared for him! I can't do anything for him while I'm here at work! I hate this!

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Chancalot

I'm new, is your husband ill?

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TheFightGoesOn in reply toChancalot

He was in the hospital Friday with what was a viral thing with his lungs. Fluid around one lung. Front & back flaps rubbing together causing lots of pain & still doing so today. Still pain. Can't do much at all. I'm worried sick. I'm still at work. Closing soon. Like really soon. But won't get home until 9:30-9:45. I've been going nuts all night.

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Hollick in reply toTheFightGoesOn

Sorry to hear all this, hoping & praying you all do better soon...please take care, you have lots of courage.

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Chancalot in reply toTheFightGoesOn

Sorry to hear of his situation. Will keep you in my prayers. Don't worry it won't help any. Be prayerful!

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TheFightGoesOn in reply toChancalot

Thanks. I'm home all day today & so is he. I'm able to watch over him & make sure he doesn't overdo it. We went out to see Fire Works with our toddler niece, even though he wasn't truly up for it. Just wish I knew why he isn't getting better.

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Dolphin14 in reply toTheFightGoesOn

Mayb he needs a second opinion on this?

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TheFightGoesOn in reply toDolphin14

I had to go an urgent type care place today for a drug screening for a new job today so, while I was there, I made him see someone as well. He's still having the pains, still not breathing good, & now suffering from lack of sleep. The doctor we have seen today thinks he may have a blood clot in the lung & he should get a CT Scan done. He did get X-rays the night he was in the ER, but nothing showed up as a blood clot that night. I tried making him to the ER as the doctor today advised him, but he wouldn't listen, saying he did not want to waste more hours of his day waiting in another waiting room for a CT Scan. I do plan on calling his primary doctor Monday to have it all taken care of. It's starting to trigger everything all over again. The blood clot is a scary thing. Like I said once before, it's what caused my mothers' heart failure. I don't want my girls to have to live through a loss such as this. I just wish my husband wasn't stubborn! Until I can reach his primary, my anxiety will be so high it's not funny. I already feel the pains in my chest & my breathing getting complicated. I nearly cried in the room when discussing this possible issue with the doctor today. My husband knows how I feel about this & I hate how he's taking it so lightly.

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Dolphin14 in reply toTheFightGoesOn

Wow I'm sorry to hear this. He definitely needs the scan done to rule out the clot.

Guys can be so stubborn. But you know how dangerous it could be so naturally you are worried. I wish I had some advice on how to get him there.

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TheFightGoesOn in reply toDolphin14

I may actually try seeing if the answering service would be able to get a hold of his primary doctor to see if he can get the script in for his scan & see if there hospital we would be going to can do it on a Sunday or maybe even later today/tonight. As long as he knows he doesn't have wait forever, he'll go & get it done.

Until he does though, thoughts of the worse will linger in my head until I know he'll be okay.

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Dolphin14 in reply toTheFightGoesOn

That sounds like a good plan. I would hope they would get him in to rule out a clot.

Just try and hang in there

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TheFightGoesOn in reply toDolphin14

"Smoking" has been my go to through this as well as talking to 2 friends of mine when they're available & when they're not, I'm here, just spilling my guts out. I'm preparing myself though, he mentioned he just might go back to the ER tonight & this time, I'm going with. I already told my teenager that she'll have to keep an eye on the toddler while we're gone. It'll be easy, she'll be sleeping, hopefully, for most of the time we're gone, if we go.

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Dolphin14 in reply toTheFightGoesOn

Hope you did make it to the ER and things are ok

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TheFightGoesOn in reply toDolphin14

Nah. I skipped taking my insomnia medication last night just in case he had to go. He did come downstairs from the bedroom & noticed that he fell asleep on our nieces' bed (she must've come out to the couch in the middle of the night) & had to block our dog out because he was bothering him. We'll see how today plays out. If nothing happens, I'll be making a call 1st thing in the morning.

I’m sorry. He’s scared and not breathing right so he’s not making good choices. An X-ray doesn’t show a lot of things that’s why he needs the CT scan. It’s no big deal to have and he has nothing better to do. In fact it might help him feel better so they can give him stuff for getting better. He should not be out doing things. Wil tax him and could get infection worse. It can be helped.

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He's just that stubborn. The other reason he's out doing things is because I don't know how to drive. I suffered a little trauma with me behind the wheel while being taught when I was a teen & been scared ever since. I've been trying to get over my fear of driving but, still having issues with that.

He'll get the things done that he needs done. I'll make sure of it. Just in the meantime, I'll be freaking out is all.

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