Change is a friend!

[terriltwin2]

I hear so many people say they hate change. However, change is meant to improve upon the things that are not working or staying in the same rut. I used to fear change. That meant that something was coming that I was not used to or that I would have to learn something new all over. Frankly, change scared me. Like a flat tire needing changed on a car, you can't move or go anywhere you would like to go until that flat tire is changed. Change means moving forward in a direction that you were meant to be. Change means growth and can be a comfort, because you would not have reached your destination without change.

[Sunnidayz1]

I like change too! I agree w everything u said..

[terriltwin2 in reply to Sunnidayz1]

Change doesn't have to be something we have to fear. Change is good and possible for everyone.

[Agora1]

Hi terriltwin2, I like your analogy of "change".. I think many of us

freak out with changes in our lives. We like structure and no surprises.

But you are right, in order to grow and to learn in life there has got to

be changes. Thank you for sharing your insight. xx

[Joanne1972]

i don't mind change if I'm the one initiating the change. at the moment going thru a big change of which wasn't my starting and I feel completely overwhelmed and saddened by my attempts to find a happy conclusion and not finding anything.

I used to love change....usually a big one every 3 years or so but since becoming ill I just want things to be static for a while. For the past 6 months I have desperately looking for a place to live where I can keep my 3 cats who I love do much and a place that will accept me on benefits for health reasons. The prolonged worry and thoughts I may lose my cat just breaks my heart. It's the cause of me having to go back on anti depressants. I just constantly feel I have no control over this change and every attempt to find my way through it is unsuccessful. I'm sure if my outcome is a positive one I'll feel more easy about this change in time and agree with what you are saying but what if the outcome is a sad one. It's the Unknown prolonged worry of change I don't like.

It just seams over the past 10 years every change has not been for the better n I was much happier before all this crap came into my life. (Illness, no money, no work..... No home no pets? )

Jo

[terriltwin2 in reply to Joanne1972]

I have been praying for you for 2 days now. I know one prayer can move a mountain, God knows such a time like this you need your cats. He has this!!! Yes I find in the cycle of life we all have change that we do not want, however, we don't want it and it's necessary and we don't get it. However, when this happens, rely on our Heavenly Father, he knows what we need before we even ask, he is just waiting to hear from us. Prayers.

[Joanne1972 in reply to terriltwin2]

Oh thank you, I thought after I’d posted it I felt bad about being so negative and your post a positive, uplifting one. I’m normally more of a positive person.... despite being in a depression (medicated)

Thank you for adding me into your prayers.

🌸💕🌸

Jo.

[terriltwin2 in reply to Joanne1972]

I understand. You post no matter what, that is what this community is for. You are going through a tough time and we all have been there. I tell my friends all the time, there is NOTHING wrong with sharing feelings and being yourself. By you posting, you never know when another is going through the same thing or something similar and you actually are helping another person. Thank you for posting.

[Dolphin14]

I don't like change at all.

I guess I'm not as far along as you guys.

I've had to make changes of course but they come filled with anxiety and fear of the unknown... maybe someday

[terriltwin2 in reply to Dolphin14]

I understand, Change is frightening. Every one gets a little fearful over change. You are not alone on that. I was reading an article and it stated, that change does bring fear. However, they compared it to a writer and writing a book. They wrote that a writer may get turned down 30 times before a book is accepted. A fear of the unknown is not pleasant, however, if you don't face the change you may be passing something up you would have never known about if you stayed unchanged. Here is a quote I thought was good in the article, " you have to write the 1st draft, before you can write the full story". that 1st or 30th draft may get turned down. Change is unknown, however, it is necessary for us to grow and write our full story.

[Dolphin14 in reply to terriltwin2]

Agree

And some day this will happen for me

Thank you😊

[terriltwin2 in reply to Dolphin14]

One day at at time!!!

[Dolphin14 in reply to terriltwin2]

Yes that's what works for most things take it as it comes.

I have ptsd first have to overcome That trauma.

Then hopefully on to bigger and better things.

Enjoy the day. Sun out here going to enjoy it while it lasts

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I agree

[Magicdreamer]

Thank you for the posts as I found it an interesting read. Change doesn't have to mean take a jump over the grand canyon, it means to identify what's not serving you and make those changes.... For example, I may have a belief and thoughts that go with it that make me feel inadequate. Those thoughts make me feel like I'm worthless and I fall victim to my own inadequate thoughts about myself and land up in an anxious tail spin. Change means to slowly, and in a graceful way, identify and understand those thoughts that are keeping you stuff and make a conscious decision daily to change them. It means taking one step at a time otherwise the word change in itself makes me feel like I need to take off immediately opening fight and flight to a field day. Lol! Change is a gradual process as it learning to trust yourself and takes the rest of our lives. This journey is exactly that... A journey. I'm starting to change how I look at things for example, my pessimistic thoughts that I adopted from my folks which make me think the worst is going to happen. I'm slowly proving those thoughts to be untrue and proving it to myself daily. Some days are rockier than others but its those rocky days I learn the most from. This journey is all about F.L.Y.... First Live Yourself and nobody knows how I want to be loved so I'm learning to love myself the opposite of how I was taught.xxx

[terriltwin2 in reply to Magicdreamer]

Proud of you! Great post and great job. It is a process and one day at a time.