Panic attack

[Lovely_Lizzy_]

Ok so I’m kinda having a problem cause one of my friends I have know since 1st Kept asking about my relationship, the after a couple questions and I told him to stop multiple times, and did not answering most of the questions. He asked me for nudes and I told him no and sent him a makeup palette called naked. But he keeps talking to me, at first I thought he was playing but I’m getting the feelings he isn’t 😓😥😰😥😓😰

[optimuscoolbeans]

Nope. Not funny.

[Lovely_Lizzy_ in reply to optimuscoolbeans]

Yeah I know

[Lovely_Lizzy_]

I honestly couldn’t breathe and I felt sick, I am in a relationship, and he knew this, yet he still did this? What’s wrong with people, boundaries anyone? No? Ok!

[MYNN in reply to Lovely_Lizzy_]

Wow. Yeah definitely stay away from him.

[MYNN]

Hi. Lizzy. Are you stressing because you think someone you don't like likes you in a romantic way? Or is it because you feel it has taken a racy tone? Or is it because you felt pressured to do something you don't feel comfortable doing? When we care about people, it's hard to set our boundaries isn't it? It's so much easier when we have to deal with people we don't know. Don't be afraid to set your boundaries tactfully and authoritatively. I'm sure your friend will appreciate it because that will remind him of your female-value. Good luck!

[Lovely_Lizzy_ in reply to MYNN]

Thanks for the advice and I was anxious cause of the pressure to do something I didn’t want to and the fact that I don’t like him like that but I don’t wanna hurt my friend. But last nite I made the decision to block him, we still go to the same school but for now, I just can’t

[MYNN in reply to Lovely_Lizzy_]

Stay strong Lizzy. You do what feels best to you

I'm 42 years old, and your story reminded me of something that happened to me when I was sixteen. At the time, my mother was bedridden and fighting for her life against cancer. I confided in a guy friend about my fears of losing my mother, but that turned out to be a mistake because he fell in love with me. Just like you, I was afraid to hurt him because I really cared about him. I was clear with him about not having the mental or emotional energy to think of him romantically because of all that was happening with my mother. He was always respectful and caring, but he couldn't help showing his love for me and treating me like his girlfriend. For example, he would tell his mother everything about me. His mother was pregnant and when she had the baby named her after me. He was so attentive that my sisters and people from school assumed we were going out. That really bothered me. I felt he was imposing himself in my life more than I needed. I felt like he would used our conversations about my mother as an excuse to stop by my house uninvited. I felt guilty and ungrateful because he was so supportive, and I instead harbored resentful feelings towards him. So I began to hide from him at school, and if he would stop by my house uninvited I would try to hide from him there too. But my mother put a stop to that quickly. She scolded me and said that she did not wanna see me hiding from him again. She ordered me to tell him not to come back, or to accept his friendship as he was offering it to me. Telling him to not be in my life anymore was too hard... Plus, that was not what I wanted. I needed him as only my friend and nothing else. My mom passed away a couple of months after that, he loved me so much that he offered to be one of the pallbearers at her funeral and burial. Eventually, I had to stop talking to him because it became too painful for both of us. Neither of us would settle for what we had. Fast forward, 26 years later, I learned he became a cop and was happily married with children. Incidentally, his wife physically resembles me. On the other hand, I became a lonely woman, with no husband, no children, and no friends. Sorry, my story took a gloomy turn.

[Lovely_Lizzy_ in reply to MYNN]

Hey 1. I’m ur friend, and I’m here to listen if needed 2. I know it’s a little late in life but I’m sure u can find someone to love u 3. I don’t mind the gloomy turn (my life is full of them) 4. I was mostly bothered because I am dating someone else.

[Dolphin14]

I like the send back of the make up haha good work.

I wound tell him inappropriate and knock it off.

[Lovely_Lizzy_ in reply to Dolphin14]

Thank you 😂

[hypercat54]

Hi if your 'friend' won't stop then I would suggest making him an ex-friend. He sounds like a creep to be honest. x

[Lovely_Lizzy_ in reply to hypercat54]

Yeah I already cut him off by blocking him