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How do I accept the fact this girl who came back into my life is still sick, and wants to love but doesn’t know how? Wants to let me in but is so terrified? I don’t get it. I love her, and I want to do everything I possibly can. But she’s so scared.

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sweetiepye

This is very sad. Perhaps the timing is not right just now. Maybe being a friend to her would be better for her , less pressure. You cannot make her better although you can be a support to her. She has to do the work herself to get better, and she may be a different person when that happens. Be cautious , either or both of you could be badly hurt. I think some others on site will have some good advice for you Pam

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terriltwin2

Time and love are the best recipe for this. Just show her you love her by your actions. Be patient and give this some time. Sometimes people are afraid to have love in their life because others have failed to love them and they simply are afraid of getting hurt. Just patience, love by actions and time.

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Daveyboy77

Good morning.

Just be there for her. Take little steps if she loves you like you love her then she will wait for you. Trouble is when it comes to love you will always find that someone wants to commit while the other person is cautious. Believe me have been there just like you. So frustrating. But you have to think of the other persons feelings especially if shes suffers from anxiety or depression. Tell her your feelings but also tell her that you know she's not well and will help her no matter what.

I really hope it works out for you.

Please let me know how it goes.

All the best.

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kenster1

hi maybe its something from her past that makes it difficult for her to trust.for now being a good supportive friend is just as important maybe in time she will see things different.

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Lulububs

I think that u have written this on here pretty much tells us all how much u care, all u can do is show her ur there for her b it as a friend till she trusts u and feels ready or later as her partner...

What it will show her is trust and love that u have put the time and effort in to help her and wait for her and not put any pressure on her...

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