I'm not social at all, I even avoid asking my parents for 'food' which is a simple need; because I don't want to start a conversation, let alone having friends.
However, I get so talkative when I'm alone in my room. I sit down on my bed while facing the wall and start talking out loud for hours on end, while taking glances at the mirror as if someone was watching me.
I've never thought of it as a burden, but it started to get over me, now I tend to lose awareness while talking and start to believe that someone is responding.
Normally I try to come up situations that didn't happen before, and it always revolves around friendship. Making new friends, or telling a joke before crying out of laughter! Alone. It feels that I have my own invisible friend!
But it's not always about talking, I sometimes pretend that I got cut off, then listen to whatever my invisible friend is trying to say.
Now whenever I take a glance at the wall or the mirror I automatically start to talk.
It was never a burden, I just wanted to know about your thoughts, and if someone was or still like that.
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Maybe you really want friendships but are having trouble making them (for whatever reason) like me?
Yes! I find it so difficult since everyone belongs to a group right now
I do that to a point. I will talk out loud on my drive home saying what I want to say to my coworker that argues with me every day. Also at night I talk in my head conversations that I wish I could have with family or friends. Relive conversations from my past etc. My head is constantly doing that but only out loud in my car.
Yours sounds a bit different like you are conversing for company and almost like someone you don't know is there. It's understandable being alone but concerning as well if the boundaries of reality seem like they are becoming unclear. I would seek professional opinion about this if it were me. Can you talk to your parents about it, or a teacher?
Hi Melhall, thank you for your reply! ❤ I don't know any actual person who does the same thing!
My older brother already knows about it. He reacted so sweetly! He told me if I had any stupid jokes, or any story, I could tell it to him instead of the wall! I really love my brother, but he is not always available. Because he always leaves for university, Thank you again Melhall!
When I am alone I would do that also. Sometimes just wanting to get the words out that I could not do with my coworkers, friends, and family. Lately I have been doing it a lot. Sometimes it is a way when everything is overwhelming with emotions I just check out into a different world. I have been doing this for a long time. I would like to stop but it is hard to deal with the anxiety and depression right now.
Hello Cintexas! Please don't stress yourself out, try to think of it as a coping mechanism! now that I know people who are like me, and you! It feels less lonely..
Thank you so much for your reply! I hope you get better soon with your depression and anxiety❤❤
I've done this for decades, since my teenage years (I'm 50 now) and this is the first time I've ever come across anyone referencing it. I could have done so myself of course but I'm very grateful to you for doing do because frankly I've thought i was mad.
I do it at home on my own or when I'm driving. I don't ever even think about it, I just start having a conversation with invisible people (ones i don't know and never will, in circumstances i will never find myself, it's like creating a whole other existence).
I'd be mortified if anyone overheard me and I often think even when I'm doing it that it's so odd, have never discussed it with anyone so it's a relief to realise I'm not on my own with this - thank you for posting.
I see a lot of people driving along in a car on their own having a conversation, I often wonder at they using a hands free phone or talking to themselves.
Omg. I do it 2. Allll the time! I always thought maybe i was going crazy to be this person that just has conversations with themselves but it's kind of cathartic. Because having actual conversations with people sometimes is useless.
It's such an odd thing because this thread is the first time I've actually recognised it in myself properly. Been doing it for decades but have never ever thought to mention it in group therapy i attended for years and numerous psych interventions.
I think you could be right Clue, it's a way of having conversations that perhaps have a more satisfactory arc/resolution, or as others have said trying to organise/understand our own thoughts.
Been thinking about this most of today and memories coming back from teenage years when i think it started - i had a miserable time and i think it was a way to manage the sadness, isolation, lack of connections and the severe depression and anxiety I've had ever since.
How is it then that you are posting on a site where you can get a "real" response ? It seems too that your social side is craving interaction but your nearest and dearest are not the ones.
I suspect you are timid about going out, i also imagine you are the type that lives your life vicariously, as in watching others lives rather than living yours.
Don't persist with the solitude, you will go nuts, get out and chat to a stranger, or someone with the same interests as you but don't cut off from your family completely, just reassure them that you're ok and starting to seek help.
Hi Philijc thank you for your advice ❤ I'll try to work on it! Even though we're still on summer break, but I attended a summer program that is starting next month! I'll make sure to have some real friends❤
Hi Reon, I’ve known a number of people who do this and many of them do different things to cope, some leave it be and manage their stressors and go to therapy, some take medicine that helps them have more control over the behavior/stay more present, and some do both. I’m happy to chat more about it if you’d like, just let me know.
Yes! That's me to a tee only I walk around or sit in mother nature and have the most incredible conversations with myself. I go through so many emotions, I cry I laugh and my invisible friend always encourages me to look for the silver lining... It's like a twin pair inside.... And I apologise for cutting them off! LOL! You're not crazy, you're learning how to have a relationship with yourself. These are the parts of me I feel I need to get to know before I'm brave enough to show the world. You're amazing and definitely not the only one that does this. Thank you for sharing. Xxx
I have done this for year just talking in my head to my shadow. But now I now talk out loud a few times someone inntbe family heard me and said you talking to yourself. Yes i was it was confirming something i needed to do. I also talk to my deceased Mum and Dad to help me get through the day. I know I am not the only one who does this my Mum did it and other people i know. It is a way of commumicating to the higher self. Talk to someone who understands you if you have any problems or visitbyour GP.
I think you will find talking to yourself is ok as many people of all ages do it daily.
Is it possible for you to have a pet?? It could be something that is low maintenance such as a goldfish. Then you might not keep judging yourself because you don't want to talk to people! Eventually after you feel comfortable your pet is a happy and reliable source of unconditional love!!!
Settle down to a life of invisible conversation! This likely will not change, as it has not for me or anyone who has mentioned it. You might as well laugh about it, I am laughing in relief I am not the only one!
Go ahead and create a story about in case someone overhears you go on, which is often the biggest fear! I think we should all come up with this as psychological "exercise" we do wink wink OR better yet, we are a "psychic medium" oooh, good one!
It really is actually a great exercise. I started this on my own as well and no-one told me, nor have I heard about it before from others. I like to journal as well and when I write I am making a conversation about and I talk when I write... Oh shit, I am talking out-loud right now!
What I like best about this "invisible conversation buddy" is ...wait for it... you always get control of the conversation! I find this is really valuable, I am serious! Lately I haven't been able to talk with others very well. It gets frustrating. How can I ever know I think if I never get to talk...uninterrupted.
I wish I did this actually. I tend to talk without thinking to people and say the STUPIDEST things!!!!! I keep trying to remind myself that God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason. Listen twice as hard as you speak. I tend to blab blab blab and it invariably gets me into TROUBLE!!!! I could use the practice!
I spend a lot of time talking to myself. It’s my way of practicing what I’ll say or imagining fun scenarios. I usually talk about stuff I wish people would ask me but I don’t want to bring up myself. I too get caught up in talking to myself and when I realize it, it does freak me out. So I get it.
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wink wink OR better yet, we are a "psychic medium" oooh, good one! 
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