I fear that I have made the mistake of oversharing some details in regards to the trauma I have experienced.
There’s been nothing but dead silence ever since.
Not on this forum but with my partner.
And I hope I didn’t hurt her. Honesty was my only intention.
I’m trying so hard to not let it spiral me into another whirlwind of self hatred & a depression spell.
I don't know anything about you personally ofcourse, but I will say that processing someone's hurt can be time consuming.
I would give her time or space to let it sink in/sort it out.
In the time being, share your thoughts here.
I completely agree with gnmeyers2000. It is not easy to hear someone you care about has gone through something you can not help with.
I struggle with over sharing too especially when its something negative or triggers me. But we all make mistakes. No human is perfect and making mistakes help us grow.
Agreed with gnmyers2000 as well. I think it's better to have an honest/open line of communication rather than one party holding all the weight (stress, the truth, burdens, and on and on). It's really difficult for one party to hold all of that and still remain "balanced". I would allow them sometime to reflect and process, but try not to feel like you've done something wrong. I don't know the extent of this relationship and how your trauma plays in, but I think you did a good thing for yourself confronting your trauma. With time, perhaps this will lead to greater healing. Definitely come here to not allow yourself self-loathing/depression spirals. Please keep your head up and take care for now.
I also agree with what others have said so far. I've been on 3 sides of similar situations (all with the same person) - she's been honest with me about her trauma, I've told her about mine, and I've witnessed her dealing with the aftermath of a suicide attempt of someone else she cares about.
in my experience, the person on the receiving end always appreciates knowing the truth and potentially being able to provide more support because of it. however, it's hard to absorb, because they love you, and they may need some space.
I feel for you too, it's difficult to tell someone you love something you know will be hard for them to hear, and then to wonder if it was a mistake. *hug*
the third one sounds like it would be terrible all around (and it was) but I will add that being there in that situation was the tipping point for me to decide that I would not kill myself, no matter how I felt. so I guess long story short, these conversations are the exact opposite of fun, but they are undeniably important to have (with the right people). I don't know you or your partner, but I doubt it was a mistake to open up to her.
Yeah, try telling someone you are connected to aliens. It's just tumbleweeds!
I really appreciate these responses & the support of everyone. Thank you so much ✨
What’s wrong with me 😔
Emotionally burnout😣😔
My anxiety is destroying me 😔
