I need advice

[iheartwann]

Hi everyone..

I’m new here I have been diagnosed with anxiety and depression a year ago by my primary dr. I was put on 2 different medication nothing works for me. I feel sad all the time I don’t have anyone to talk 2. Nobody ever gets or understand how I feel. At times I hear people laugh it off when I tell them about my anxiety and it rlly makes me feel bad about myself. I tried getting therapy but I have a $500 deductible so I’m unable to go right now. Even over the holiday me and my boyfriend did research and seen how people get emotional support pets so we got a dog his name is Louis. He helps a little but right now I’m just really having a hard time. I go to the stores a lot a buy things I don’t need but it makes me feel better when I do that but a lot of the time I take the things I brought back, I read that it isn’t a good thing to do. I’m just tired of feeling this way. I’m just always laying around crying a lot of the time I can’t even get up for work.

Do anyone have any suggestions on what should I do ?

[NoMonkeyBusiness]

Have you tried exercising or healthier eating habits? I know it sounds cliche or something but it really does help. When I was going through the toughest part of my life was about when I started to eat healthier and exercise. I lost a lot of weight but mentally it actually helped. Start out with 30 minutes 3 or 4 days a week then after a week or two increase it to 45 minutes or an hour. It seems so little, but it could help go a long way too. Even if you look into some yoga or meditation routines to do at home. I’ve seen many people getting into this “Adrienne’s 28 day yoga challenge” and it seems to really help them and they enjoy it. I just had hip surgery but once it’s healed I’ve considered looking into some yoga myself. I don’t know though just a suggestion? 🤷🏼‍♀️ I know it’s hard to deal with depression and anxiety but it’s important to know that you are not alone. I work at a doctors office and believe it or not, honestly, most people do suffer from these.

[iheartwann in reply to NoMonkeyBusiness]

Thanks you I’m going to look into that.

[NoMonkeyBusiness]

Of course! Don’t expect it to make a huge impact overnight, it will take some time, but it will also be worth it. I hope this does help you, even if it’s a small improvement, it’d still be a step in the right direction.

[Ripley7]

I don’t know if this sounds silly or not but a couple of things that I’ve come to look forward to doing that help in distracting my mind from sadness are planting a little garden - nothing fancy - could be just a couple of little plants.

My favorites are various herbs because I find the scents of many to be comforting to me. Mint, rosemary, lavender, lemon balm, chocolate mint, spearmint, citronella, you name it.

I love caring for them and watching them grow nice and healthy. It makes me feel good to know that I have a hand in making them sort of ‘happy’ I guess you could say. Lol

Another thing I like to do started kind of by accident- is feeding the little birds out in our back yard. The house we live in now we are lucky to have a screened in porch so no cats outside anymore-they can now enjoy a taste of the outdoors from the safety of the screened in porch or the nice big window view from inside.

So I now get to watch this beautiful family of cardinals that live nearby raise their young and come to our feeders. I can’t describe the peace I feel when it’s close to sundown and I’m sitting on the back porch and the only sounds I hear are the occasional whoosh of their little wings and their little chirps and the quiet little seed cracking they do.

That’s at least until one of my children come busting out onto the porch with their noise and all- haha. It’s usually a short lived peacefulness but I try to set a regular time every day for at least some time for myself to do one of these.

It doesn’t really cure me necessarily of anything but I do a lot of thinking during those times and even managing to just clear the noise in my head for a short time and feel nature around me.

I know- I’m corny. What can I say. 😌😊