I am just numb. Is there a next stage or is this it.

[Rainydayz4me]

Not feeling anything except occasional severe sadness. Not suicidal because I lack motivation even for that. I lack motivation to speak. I don’t even know why I joined this group because I don’t care that much. I think I’m beyond depressed. Can a person go past depression to some checked out phase?

[Brifish]

When I get depressed as I am now I also feel the same way. EVERYTHING seems like a chore and I have no energy to even care. I feel numb and extremely sad. I feel like I have a invisible weighted blanket on my that holds me down from doing anything.

I think its normal to feel this way. I would however get yourself some help.

Good luck and your not alone!

[Stilltrying_]

Yes I have gone beyond depressed to this sort of state. I would say I am completely collapsed. I am just trying bit by bit to start to eat ( that is working now and I am eating) taking multi vitamin and forcing myself to do yogic breathing or exercise at the point when I am able. I sort of feel frozen though in a deep depression and it is horrible and frightening. Hold on. You can get through this and its normal when our stress overload is too much.

Just hang on in there and please don't do anything stupid; it isn't worth it. You can recover from this with the right help.

[Rainydayz4me in reply to Stilltrying_]

I think I’m past a point of return. I’m not going to do anything stupid. I’d say I’m feeling paralyzed from depression and no fear or anxiety anymore. I don’t think I want to get help...Finding the right help is like finding a needle in a haystack and I don’t have the desire or strength to try. I’m not new to depression but this is something else. How long does it take to grieve the sudden death of a loved one? Maybe I’m grieving but it’s been 7 months already.

[Stilltrying_ in reply to Rainydayz4me]

They say about four to five years for the grieving process so seven months you would not expect to have worked through it. It can take us to very low places indeed and this is "normal" for grief believe me. If it's "complicated" in any way and you say it was sudden then it can take longer. The cloud with lift eventually. It really will but it takes time, a long time.

I am really pleased you won't do anything stupid. It's a horrendous pain I know. It will pass eventually but for now just maintain yourself at a minimal level; that's all we can do when we are in that state.

To answer your question yes there are other stages; I think there are about seven stages of grief and you are maybe in stage two so hang on in there and maybe get support when you are ready from grief counselling but only when you are ready maybe not as this point because it is hard enough just to survive, I know. x

[Sillysausage234]

Sounds like your isolated stuck in a bad place sorry to hear about your loss 7 months is not very long keep coming on here talking to people who truly understand what it’s like to completely lose hope.

[2017runner]

I hear your pain sorrow and desperation. 7 months isn’t long for the loss of a loved one. Maybe the pain of your loss is too hard to bear so you have blocked it out and are feeling nothing. Sounds like it might be a relief to cry but that the tears won’t come right now. Sending love and hoping for a shift for you. Don’t give up, things will change xxxx

[dbeck128]

I can say I have had the exact feelings of “Not even wanting to get help”. For me it’s like I’m comfortable suffering and when I’m not suffering I panic. Or just don’t feel right at all. Weird

[froggymom88]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Seven months is a very short time when grieving the loss of a loved one. Try remembering the good things and times with this person. They would want you to be happy. I made a little memorial garden when I lost my dad. I go there and think about the fun things we did together. It helps.