how does everyone maintain??

I just wonder how other people maintain themselves at work when having all these feelings and thoughts in their minds? I do not do it very well most of the time I'd say 90% of the time I can but that other 10% of the time I don't even know how I still have my job I get anxious and email a lot to check on things or get insecure about things and I email about that I have very understanding management I guess and I'm sure they can't wait till I leave but it amazes me I still have a job. And I don't understand how other people can maintain themselves at work. How do you all do it?

[photomanatee]

So I am a student and this may not be of much help because it is a bit different as I can choose when (or if) to work on my School work. I have begun taking a small dose of sertraline and I see my therapist every other week. It has helped me focus a little more but I still struggle with all the emotions and thoughts and worries. The medication definitely helps but I just take it one thing at a time. I really do struggle with getting things done but it helps me to write down what I must get done and by what day and also when I want to get it done. that way at least I can get things done by the time they are due if not before. not sure if that helps but at least it can be good to know that you aren't the only one experiencing this.

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Thank you I have not heard of that medication I will have to check it out. I am sensitive to many Meds so always have to start on a really low dose. But I thought I saw someone else mention that same Med on here so I will check it out thank you very much!

It does help thank you very helpful. I've been thinking lately I need to start writing things down I get so overwhelmed with thinking about things that worry me that I forget about things that I have to get done so that is a very good suggestion thank you very much. And to be more exact about things does seem like it would be beneficial thank you for your suggestions!😊

[photomanatee in reply to Hidden]

Glad it helped a bit! I started on an incredibly low does, 12.5 mg which is the lowest it goes. It does take a few weeks to work but once it starts working it does help quite a bit.

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Thank you ...I just started with a nurse practitioner so I'll ask her about it. Thanks again!

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I struggle everyday, it's emotionally draining. My health is suffering.

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I'm sorry... me too. thank you for your response!

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I don't know except maybe because I adore my job. At work I am in control and manage the nursing staff. My work is so serious in surgery that I have to be fully present. It's also an escape from home where the problems are. At work I am treated with respect and people listen to me. I'd rather be at work than doing anything else. Weird, right?

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Thank you for replying. No not weird at all that's pretty great that you like your job that much. And sounds like it's a very high pressure job but that you enjoy it immensely. I think if a person has one or the other that they feel comfortable in or they feel secure in that it's okay for them but if you have both that you feel insecure about your work and your personal life then that's where the problem comes in. So I'm glad you have your job that you feel so much passion for!😊

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Thank you. I agree to have both bad would be so miserable. I feel for you. What kind of job do you have?

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Thank you. I work in the securities industry. I enjoy my job to some degree but the work is starting to go away and I just don't feel like I'm very well-liked there and that I'm basically tolerated I don't feel like

I'm not given opportunities and now that I'm getting older I feel like they're just waiting for me to walk out the door. And because I'm getting older hard for me to go out and find something else. But too young to retire and I live alone. I'm a really hard worker and I enjoy working and so it makes me sad. Thank you for your empathy.

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I'm not young either. It can be hard to find a job but maybe a new trade would be a good change. You sound like a hard worker. Change is hard but it could be just what you need.

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Thank you for the support I really appreciate it. I have tried in the past but maybe it's time to try looking again figure out there's something else out there for me to do. Thanks again😊

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Your welcome😊

[hypercat54]

Hi I must admit when I was struggling at work I would concentrate on making my mind a blank and just do my work like a zombie. I had to do that to keep my job but I wouldn't recommend it as it's a very hard habit to break. The more I thought the more I would panic and the more I would stress. I hope you find a better way. x

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Perhaps I need to do at least a little of the zombie thing. Try and keep my mind clear of the thoughts that drive me crazy at work. I can see where it could go too far but I think for me it would not ... I tend to be so emotional about everything so perhaps I will just concentrate on keeping my mind clear distracting myself and think zombie... Thank you very much I appreciate your input!

[happy_kitty]

I have a 3-step process for dealing with unwanted emotions.

Step 1 - Why? Identify the trigger or the reason for the emotion

Step 2 - Is it worth it? Ask yourself if the reason is worth the response

Step 3 - What can I do about it? Make a plan to deal with it an follow through {If you decided the reason was worth the response, what can you do to eliminate that reason - if not, how can you alleviate the response in a healthy manner}

Hope that helps!

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Yes it does help thank you... a process to deal with these emotions. I try to listen to stuff on YouTube to distract me that sometimes helps sometimes not. That's about the only process I have right now for them. So while I'm there , to try and follow if it gets to that point. Would come in handy when I feel a need to email these emotional emails I've tried to stop hold it for 24 hours but I can't seem to do that may be asking what the reason is for the emotion is a better way to go about it and go from there. Thank you very much for your response!