Anxiety leading to depression

[Zooter7]

I have been dealing with anxiety since I was eighteen, I am now 31. I have managed to subside my anxiety by not placing myself in situations in which I don't have full control. It has landed me to become depressed because I don't find my current life situation fulfilling.

[Kat63]

I can relate to this, and I bet a lot of other people can, too. I get bored when things are too safe for too long - but let one little bad thing happen, and I get insecure and anxious.

[Zooter7 in reply to Kat63]

I know, its like I want more to my life, but I just can't deal with the new challenges I have to complete to get there.

[Candle_lit in reply to Kat63]

Wow! Sounds like my life! I have a comfy little setup. Alot of times i truly desire to help more, travel alone more, keep friends and challenge myself. But soon as one thing happens i get anxious and maniac...

[Gilbertina]

I am 54. I started having anxiety when I was early 20s in a competitive job. The SSRI medicine should help you with depression providing you are on medicine. I am, and it saved my life when I almost lost it and thought I would be committed...so I suggest getting help w/medicines, while you can learn more coping skills thru here/books/etc (see my ASMR post also for calm at night). .I also internalize what people say, and the negative things we see on the news and such. Here is my advice....I see it a lot with people 20 years younger than me. **First** and I am going to be blunt....you have to focus on others and get out of your head and yourself. Volunteer....get off the smartphone/computer/tv. Believe me, I love my smartphone, but it is very isolating in a way. Remember in your free time "you have the control" on what you do! Nothing replaces human interaction. Volunteer at a church, volunteer at a soup kitchen, volunteer at a local school with under privileged kids. I am sure you, as this unique human, have something to offer. There is so much need, and in that environment they are greatful for help....and usually quite humble and human....shoot you can even tell them that you have a bit of anxiety and once you see they are good with that you might relax. **Second**, list all the blessings you have. I did that during severe anxiety and if you write 5 positive things in your life daily, you will be amazed at your outlook change. Keep that with you and make copies and put up around your living quarters....It makes sense really. Now I do my blessings in my head, several per week. **Third**, try God. God made man to be in relation with each other, and Him. Get involved somewhere by attending a church. Most church people are nice....our church has a support group of people with all kinds of issues from trying to give up alcoholism to moms whose husbands just up and left....it is called Celebrate Recovery, and people with all kinds of issues come and learn. I have not gone though. Find somewhere that offers this support group. But let me state that no one person is perfect, and there will always be flaws with man/religion, but a lot of good comes out of churches too. But again, noone ever report this....just when someone screws up. Remember, the churches feed and house homeless people during the winter, mentor to people like you who might need a person to talk to, give money locally and oversees, and tons more. Cant say the government does that....they may cut a check to someone but there is no involvement. God/Jesus has made me overcome a lot of shit in my life, and I could not have done it w/o Him. Look around at really the beauty of this earth, our bodies, our minds, Realize how incredible it all is. However, just like you are spending time here, or texting friends/family, people fail to realize that God won't bombard you and is waiting for you to put in the time with Him....so talk to him in your head in a natural way, or in your car, or in a prayer to Him. Believe me I see so many connections now that I never saw before that I truly believe God has a hand in. **Fourth**, exercise and get that natural high up. I have to drag myself sometimes and it is hard to even walk several miles when I am low/anxious, but I believe it has helped me get through easier. Listen to positive music or fast beats which will get you up while you walk/exercise...Endorphins...that is what helps us....**Fifth** I am back to this as my anxiety was bad again....turn off the negative images, news, and crap in this life. There is a lot of good that never gets reported on Social Media or news....sigh!. LIKE HERE! Look at how everyone is trying to help in some way....I have replaced typing here rather than poopoo news...LOL...**Lastly**, my dad died of a scary disease called pulmonary fibrosis but when he was early 90s. He was bed bound at the end and I was helping my mom with him at home in "hospice". Well I connected on a Pulmonary Fibrosis FB support page. They were a Godsend and they helped me with even medical/nursing/home care questions. My anxiety skyrocketed and I drank Nyquil every night to sleep and get me thru crying spells because my dad was a good dad and hospice was stressful....A year after he passed and I was able to think of it, I went back to the site to offer advice and support to others. I am sure you have something to offer. Look at your life experiences, both sad and happy, and use them to help others. You will be fulfilled. You do matter.

I hope something here helps. I will pray for you, and that you see how God does do tiny miracles for us daily. But, you got to get going and do it....I hope I don't sound lectury...maybe it is the mom in me, but I mean well. Blessings friend. <3

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I understand, I too am dissatisfied with my life.