Mom who hates her daughter

[hisipiki]

You would think this is impossible : a mom who Hates her own daughter. But I'm telling you, that's totally possible. And this has been happened to me since I was born.

Maybe I'm chinese and I have a younger brother, my mom who is very traditional herself (and her mom, I.e. my grandmother, treated her that way too), so she has ignored me since I was born.

I was raised by my grandparents from my dad's side. Things were fine that way. However, things got worse and worse and worse since i needed to move back with my parents and my younger brother when I was 13. My brother was 6 years younger so he used toy swords to hit me or he would pour water to my uniforms, school bags, books etc. But my mom wouldn't scold me. My dad would hit both me and my brother as punishment, which I didn't think I did which wrong.

Since my mom took me and my brother to America, things got even worse as u could imagine....

Now, after I got married, things are even worse. like she's my mom who treats me bad.

I know someone would say I'm silly but it hurts that your mom treats u bad. Especially there is comparison between me and my brother which is so huge.

According to my grandma and my childhood neighbors/parents, I was a very good kid when I was young. But my mother said I m not as good as my brother.

As demonstration to my parents, my GPA is 4.0 while my brother barely passed college. However, all these didn't do anything proving to my parents. I wanted to work hard to prove to my parents at that time. But nothing works. What only left is hurts and pain.

[leanneski]

Sorry to hear that, must be very frustrating and sad for you. Sadly parents aren’t always able to give you love, but you can find it elsewhere! Sending you some now 💜💜 xx

[hisipiki in reply to leanneski]

Thanks 💜💜💜💜💜

[leanneski in reply to hisipiki]

😉 x

[hisipiki in reply to leanneski]

😘🙏🏼

[Agora1]

I'm so sorry hisipiki in how you've been treated from early on. There are many

children for whatever reason (not their own) don't feel the love they so deserve

and need in their life. Might your issue come more from a cultural point?. I remember

reading that girls are not accepted in the Chinese culture as boys are. I may be wrong,

I can only go by what I have read.

You sound like a smart young woman who may need to find the confidence and self

esteem by yourself. It is possible. We don't have to spend the rest of our lives being

told we don't live up to our parents expectations.

When you have a moment may I suggest you listen to a video on YouTube

entitled "How to Build Self Confidence" by Michelle Phan I think it may help xx

[Ragdoll15]

I am sorry to hear of your unhappiness regarding your mothers behaviour towards you. It seems you are trying so hard to gain her love and understanding. Have you tried telling her how you feel? Do not feel like you have to gain her permission to be acceptable, you are a person in your own right. You must grow in your marriage and let your mother see how confident and content you are. I feel then she will respect you more. X