Don't know what to do.

[QueenE2019]

I feel like I'm in a really low place right now. I lost my job 2 months ago and I also have to find a new place to live. Having these two very scary things hanging over me Is just too much to bear. My mind goes around in circles and sometimes I wonder if I'll be able to hang on for much longer.

[Horcrux_Hunte]

Just hang on. There is always someone who loves and cares about you. I know it's hard, and I know that I have no idea what you feel, but you are going to be fine. Just hang on.

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Hey Queen,

I'm very sorry to hear of your circumstances, those are difficult and they can feel overwhelming, but not all is lost. First, I would recommend getting your resume out and about. Maybe you'll get a bite, but you can't get one without throwing some bait into the job pond. Make sure you do things one step at a time and try not to fret over things that are somewhat out of your control and not something you have to face tomorrow. There are so many steps to be had between the now....and the then (the future). Remember, we can only control what we can. There are variables (other people, events - good or bad, and so on) that play in as well. So, trying to control so much is just going to exhaust you.

My opinion is to sit down and formulate a plan that you can actually put into action. You need a job and you need housing. Start with one and give yourself some flexibility by having options. I can work here, here, or here....and live here, here, or here. Work on an "emergency situation". If by this future date I am unable to secure a job and or housing, this is what I'll do. Simplify life right now. Running your mind in circles and trying to just hang in there isn't doing you any good. You've hit a low spot as you said, so let's find a better spot.

You might check up on resources for your particular situation...either via organizations that specialize in getting someone back on their feet and back to functioning. Or there might be some government programs (unsure where you live). No matter, please hang in there and keep trying. Reduce the stress, the fear, and all the negativity you might be under. Today is hard, but tomorrow will get easier. Do you have any good friends or family that can assist you through this or that you can live with....they would be good to put in the "emergency situation" plan. Avoid the rabbit hole of spiraling negative thoughts because the truth is you have been employed, you have been able to provide for yourself, and there's no reason you can't do this again. Focus on your positive qualities and ignore the self-destructive thoughts. Also, be kind to yourself while you're dealing with this. It's a common problem for a lot of people and it never feels good. Please let us know how you're doing and if you came up with a good plan. I promise there are better days ahead.

[Kat63]

I’m in a similar situation. I lost my job 7 weeks ago and am planning a move in 10 days - back with my boyfriend whom I’m trying to work things out with.

Some things that help me deal with the immediate crazy feelings are deep breathing, and coming here to talk. You are not alone! Other people are going through the same things (like me, for example.) I find it helps me to come here and talk, and read other people’s stories.