Feeling Anxious

[Lacey_nicole3]

So today my mom finds out what time she goes in for surgery on Monday. I get panic attacks when thoughts of her and or my dad passing away. My parents are my security blankets. My worse fear is losing them and that I will no longer have that amazing support system. Does anyone have any advice on how I can handle the anxiety/panic attacks and separation anxiety issues?

[Kat63]

Do you have other family members or close friends IRL that you could talk to?

[Lacey_nicole3 in reply to Kat63]

My parents are the only ones close to me. I have a really good friend but she lives a few hours away from me.

[Kat63]

Do you have a therapist?

[Lacey_nicole3 in reply to Kat63]

Yes, I do. I've only seen her twice so far. I see her every two weeks.

[Lacey_nicole3 in reply to Lacey_nicole3]

She recommended that I use at least one of the online support groups.

[Kat63]

It’s scary when someone you love has a health problem.

[Lacey_nicole3]

Yes it is. But I know worrying doesn't help me.

[writingforjoy]

I'm just now coming across this. I hope the surgery was a great success!

I completely understand the anxiety that can come with the thought of losing loved ones.

If your anxiety is interfering with life, I truly recommend seeing a professional.

For myself, prayer, worship and reading my bible help tremendously. Also practicing deep breathing exercises and tapping techniques help greatly as well.

Knowing that there is a plan for each life, and trusting that the plan will not be cut short, has also helped me.

I pray that you find peace in your heart and what will work for you to bring you calm like never before. I am available if you want to talk or more resources.

[Lacey_nicole3 in reply to writingforjoy]

Thank you. My mom's surgery went great! She had a great nights sleep last night that she hadn't had in years! I've been working on my personal relationship with God. I've been doing my absolute best to read the Bible daily. If I'm not reading it I'm listening to it. It has helped me to read to the Bible and pray.

[writingforjoy in reply to Lacey_nicole3]

Awesome! So thankful to hear good news

[Hidden]

I worry about my parents too. I’ve had full on panic attacks and crying spells about them dying. I’ve spoken to them about my fears and it felt good to just have that conversation with them. I try to just focus on one day at a time knowing we aren’t guaranteed tomorrow. I have been trying to form friendships and go to support groups to have connections. I have my faith and I pray quite a bit. I try not to let fear dominate because it robs me of the present joy of having them in my life.

[Lacey_nicole3 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. I talked to my parents about it. My dad told me that I have to learn to depend on Jesus and not on him and my mom.