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[anich11]

Hello,

I struggle with the feeling that I'm not enough, I often feel like my husband and child's lives would be better off without me. I try my best to put a brave face on everyday at home and at work. I cry on my way to work, cry when I'm at work alone, cry because everything seems to just pile up on me all at once. My marriage is now being affected as I have became distant from my husband and soley focused on the things that have put me into the emotional state that I am. I don't know what to do....

[Christrev]

Hi Anich,

It sounds like you would really benefit from speaking to someone who is a professional at delivering support for mental health. I'm not sure what country you are in but I would recommend you look for any organisation that offers a helpline, begin there by putting a call in just to speak to someone and then arrange an appointment with your doctor and asked to be referred for therapy.

[Nicesomebody]

Hi anich11, I am sorry that you are going through a rough time. I have been there, and things got better. I applaud you for reaching out to us; this is something I never did, and I continually withdraw from asking for support.

when I was going through depression, I was so isolated and felt lonely. Talking to a therapist helped. I used an app called Headspace, and it reduced my anxiety.

You are not alone, and we are here for you. I am sending you 🔆 and hugs.

[jazzpw]

Hi Anich! it makes me so sad to hear someone with so many wonderful things in their life feels this way. I would really suggest that you reach out to someone, whether it be your husband, a professional or another family member, so you can get some of it off your chest and try to move forwards. maybe focusing on doing things with your child and putting your time into them may help as children naturally bring joy and it could help you maintain a close relationship with your family x

[Hidden]

I'm sorry. I can relate to the marital distance. Just be the best you can be and the best mom too. The rest will work itself out. I will pray for you. I mean it.

[pink83737]

Sorry you’re having such a tough time, but please know that you are more than enough! Your husband and childs lives wouldn’t be better of without you. you are loved by them and cared for deep down. You don’t need to hide your feelings all the time, I recommend doing some mindfulness before going into work or listening to happy songs!

[Philjc]

I have often felt this, however, it does lift.

On the days you feel worthless you tend to spiral downward and wallow, rather than do things that will lift you, it's actually easier to sit miserable than to go out and get yourself a treat, partly because you think you don't deserve it and partly you realise that comfort shopping doesn't work long term.

An alternative to retail therapy is to channel your feelings into doing something for a person less fortunate to you, for example give a gift of cash or a treat to a person you don't know.

I have often paid for a persons extra items at a check out if they are a few pennies short, it cheers them up, AND me.

I work in a retail store where I sometimes do a small repair or clean a ring for no charge, or I charge a small amount but show the customer it is going into a charity box.

I know it sounds contradictory, but don't try too hard to please the ones you love, as long as you are there they will love you, you don't need to keep proving it.

[susanv1994]

I am sorry that you are going through this. That feeling that you are not enough is not true. You are enough. Having depression makes you feel helpless. Have you discussed this with your husband or other adult family member such as your mother? Please don't keep this to yourself. Find someone to tell how you are feeling. Perhaps they can help you find professional assistance. Please find someone to talk to about how you feel.