Had some good advice

[msf123]

The other day I was struggling with so many unrealistic thoughts of people being mad at me and feelings of people talking about me... I had someone tell me something that at first I thought was hard and cold... but after let it sink in... I realize that this person is right and what they said had actually been a comfort to me..

This person said “you’re not that important... you’re not so special that people are spending all there time thinking of you... they have their own lives” thank you to the person with this advice!!

[fauxartist]

That's what I too have tried to explain to some who have the same kind of ruminations with social anxiety. People have their own problems and life challenges and would not even give us a second thought really, even if they did notice us. No one cares about what we look like or how we are dressed, they aren't mind readers so they don't care what we think....sure on occasion there are some jerks, but they come and go, they have nothing really to do with our lives. It's good advice you got to help you focus on what's important and that is just getting on with your day to day routine and lighten the load you don't need to be caring around about what someone may or may not think.

[msf123 in reply to fauxartist]

It is and I’m happy this person shared this with me. I struggle a little more because I am a teacher in a small town so I’m in the public eye a lot ... but I’m working on it!!

[fauxartist in reply to msf123]

I think it's brave of you to share and be honest...and that's a huge thing....your doing great.

[msf123 in reply to fauxartist]

Thank you it’s a struggle every day but I want to learn how to manage... I wasn’t always like this... I was carefree and confident... but I lived in a mentally abusive relationship and it has left is mark and ultimately taken a part of me I so desperately want back.